About Elite Singles

Billing themselves as “a professional dating site for busy American singles,” EliteSingles claims to help you find a like-minded match, regardless of race, religion, age, or sexual preference.

Compared to other dating sites, EliteSingles does this by requiring members to complete a detailed personality test (don’t worry, we’ll cover this in greater detail shortly). Then, they’ll use these results to send you 3-7 potential matches per day, which allows you to interact with others while still living your busy life. Or, as EliteSingles calls it, “streamlining the process.”

In fact, EliteSingles claims that more than 2/3 of their members hold either a bachelor’s, master’s, or doctorate degree, which means that they’re probably just as busy as you are. In addition, EliteSingles also claims that they gain 18,000 new members per week, with an average gender split of 43% male and 57% female, mostly between the ages of 30 and 55.

As a busy professional, there’s no doubt that finding true love can seem like a daunting task. I mean, where would you find the time in your hectic schedule?

But can EliteSingles help you find the right match? Do their prices provide a solid value? Are there any other considerations you should keep in mind? We’ll cover all the basics here, so you can decide if EliteSingles is worth your time and money.

Since EliteSingles’ personality test is arguably their main selling point, we’ll begin there.

EliteSingles’ Personality Test & Matching System

The 200 questions found in EliteSingles’ personality test are based on the Five Factor Model developed by Robert McCrae and Paul Costa, which measures “openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.”

Because of the test’s length, you can save your progress, log out, and return to finish at a later time, although it will need to be completed within 15 weeks of starting.

Once you’ve completed your test though, you won’t be able to go back and repeat it or change your answers at a later date. Which is why EliteSingles recommends answering as honestly as you can the first time around.

As long as you’re an EliteSingles member, you’ll be able to view the test results under your personal profile. For more information, be sure to read through EliteSingles’ Personality Test page.

An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.​An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.

From there, Elite Singles will use these results, along with their “scientific matching algorithm,” to “help introduce members with similar traits to one another, [in an effort] to give people the best chance at having a happy, long-term relationship.”

This is accomplished by sending you 3-7 matches per day, which uses 3 main criteria: your personality results from above, your relationship preferences (e.g. kids, distance, preferred age, etc.), and your location. Another factor that can impact the number of matches EliteSingles sends to you is how often you’re active on the site. In other words, the more you log on, the more matches you’ll receive.

In fact, if you’re not active enough (the company doesn’t provide any clarification about this point), you might lose your recommendations—and stop being recommended to others—altogether.

Note: Because EliteSingles’ algorithm is proprietary, we’re not told exactly how their system decides which matches to send you. However, it doesn’t appear to be based solely on how closely someone matches your personality traits, since they claim: “We’re convinced that the best relationships are between people who are not 100% identical, but enjoy a mixture of common denominators and complementary characteristics.”

But once you find someone you’re interested in, what can you do from there? We’ll get to that in a second, but let’s wrap up this section with some concerns surrounding the Five Factor Model.

Is the Five Factor Model Legit?

Is the Five Factor Model a legitimate psychological theory? Yes. But like any other theory, it’s come under a great deal of scrutiny since first being released in 1992.

Unless you’re a psychologist, most of the critiques related to the Five Factor Model will probably bore you to tears. In layman’s terms though, there are 3 main concerns:

  1. Many have argued that the Five Factor Model can’t help explain or predict anything—included potential love interests. In other words, it might not be accurate for gauging how well your personality will match with others. Why? Because it doesn’t account for cultural differences.
  2. The model only accounts for 56% of known personality traits, which means that it might leave a lot of “gray area” between you and a potential match.
  3. Finally, there isn’t a theory that the model is grounded on (which goes back to the first critique above). Instead, it’s basically just a set of data points that are clustered together in a “less than optimal” manner.

Reaching Out To Your EliteSingles Matches

In a nutshell, EliteSingles provides 4 different ways to communicate with your matches:

  • Smiles – This is often the first step, which is basically like sending an emoticon to someone, letting them know you’re interested.
  • 5 Questions – Here, you’ll be able to select 5 different questions from a list of 50 and send them to your match. Then, they’ll be able to select their answers from a list, or type a custom answer. According to EliteSingles, this can act as a sort of ice breaker to help get the conversation started.
  • Likes & Dislikes – You can send a list of the characteristics and habits you’re looking for, and they can do the same. This can help you compare each other’s answers a figure out whether or not you want to continue communicating.
  • Send a message – This is a “personalized text message” that can be sent at any time.

How much will all of these features cost you?

EliteSingles’ Membership Pricing

Signing up for an EliteSingles’ membership and taking their personality test can be done free of charge. However, if you want to begin receiving daily matches, you’ll have to purchase a paid membership. This will cost you:

  • 1 Month: $59.95
  • 3 Months: $34.95 per month (one charge of $104.85)
  • 6 Months: $24.95 per month (one charge of $149.70)
  • 12 Months: $17.95 per month (one charge of $215.40)

EliteSingles also offers a Premium Plus program, which will give you “the added benefit of receiving up to 20 additional matches per day via the “Have you met” feature.” This will cost:

  • 1 Month: $69.95
  • 3 Months: $39.95 per month (one charge of $119.85)
  • 6 Months: $29.95 per month (one charge of $179.70)
  • 12 Months: $19.95 per month (one charge of $239.40)

Regardless of which option you choose, remember that your EliteSingles membership will automatically renew at the end of the term.

Pro tip: We’ve reviewed several other popular dating sites here at HighYa (more about this next), and we often find that in addition to your membership price, you’ll have to pay to communicate with other users. Some charge for this directly, while others use a credit-based system (e.g. sending a smile will cost you 1 credit, sending a message 10 credits, etc.), which can quickly add up.

With limited pricing information available, this might not be the case with EliteSingles, although it’s definitely something worth keeping in mind.

To help answer some of your questions, EliteSingles does feature a fairly extensive FAQ section, although we didn’t uncover anything additional regarding pricing. And if you have any direct questions, customer support can be reached at support@elitesingles.com.

EliteSingles’ Competition & Customer Feedback

The truth is that it’s difficult to compete with giants like OKCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony, so most recent additions to the online dating industry focus on specific niches. This includes FarmersOnly (those looking to meet rural individuals), TripTogether (those who like to travel), ChristianMingle.com (Christians looking for other Christians), OurTime (those over 50), and more.

So what’s EliteSingles’ unique angle? Although the Five Factor Model they use might be unique, personality tests in general certainly are not. In fact, all of the top 3 sites noted above use in-depth personality tests to help match you with other singles, so it doesn’t appear there’s any advantage there.

Is it the fact that most of EliteSingles’ users are high-level professionals with college degrees? Here’s where things get interesting. Why? Because it doesn’t appear that you have to meet minimum educational or career requirements in order to join. So, while EliteSingles claims that 2/3 of their users have college-level or advanced degrees, this doesn’t appear to be a deciding factor.

Despite the site’s somewhat fuzzy advantage over the competition, are love-seekers happy with their experience?

One DatingSitesReviews, a couple dozen EliteSingles customers had nothing positive to say about the company. Common complaints cited:

  • Matching: The same 8 matches sent as soon as you join (several users from different parts of the world all said the same thing).
  • Proximity: You can’t view how close your matches are. In many instances, matches were several states away, even though they indicated that they were only interested in matches within a 50 mile radius.
  • High Price: In addition to your monthly membership, you have to pay even more for all communication.
  • Poor Customer Service: This included boilerplate responses to detailed questions, as well as difficulty cancelling memberships.

Outside of this, we only found affiliate sites and biased reviews relating to EliteSingles.

Wrapping everything up, should you lay your heart on the line with EliteSingles?

Is EliteSingles Really An Elite Online Dating Site?

Looking for love isn’t easy. If you’re a busy professional, it takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there and be open to communicating with complete strangers. Add to this long tests and high prices, and it makes it even more important that you start your online dating experience on the right foot.

To this end, we think there are a lot of other solid choices compared to EliteSingles. Their pricing model seems in line with many of the other dating sites we’ve reviewed that customers are calling a “scam,” and their online feedback—while limited—certainly doesn’t seem positive. On top of this, there doesn’t seem to be anything especially unique about EliteSingles that meaningfully differentiates it from the competition.

Our recommendation? First, to help you stay scam-free during the process, be sure to read 6 Red Flags When Dating Online. Then, we’d suggest exploring more mainstream online dating options before signing up for an EliteSingles membership.

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32 Customer Reviews for Elite Singles

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  • 1 out 1 people found this review helpful

    Awful site

    • Israel,
    • Aug 17, 2017
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    They will delete your profile without any reason nor warning.

    Everything on that site is expensive, and nothing is for free. I wouldn't recommend it unless you enjoy bad interface, bad support and complete disregard for your efforts to build a profile.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 6 out 8 people found this review helpful

    Elite Singles is the WORST of all!

    STAY AWAY from this site if you don't want to feel like you've been scammed!

    This site is by far the worst!

    You're going to waste your time (not to say your money) filling in their stupid questionnaires because everything you will write in it will be TOTALLY IGNORED. I'm sure that they present you to every user of the site, 20 or so per day. Total mismatches.

    Also, they have this random thing where they propose users that are 100% outside what you're looking for (hey, if someone would register its cat, dog, fish, hamster they would present them to you as partners you would like!). You respond or you delete forever. You can't "save" the profile to respond to after you finished reviewing what they sent (in a way, it doesn't really matter, in respect to what you specified, it's crap anyway).

    Elite Singles are liars and thieves!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 6 out 8 people found this review helpful

    You have a better shot of meeting someone in this review forum!

    • Louisiana,
    • Jul 27, 2017
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    You have a better shot of meeting someone in this review forum than on EliteSingles! LOL. Don't waste your money. I decided to try online dating for the first time and selected Elite because I thought it would be more upscale people who would be a better match for me than the crazy hook up stories I hear from other dating sites.

    I signed up, and they have a very specific long questionnaire, and you can select how strongly you feel about NOT having kids or what ethnic backgrounds you will date in, or how many miles you are willing to date within. They should change their name to complicatedmatches.com.

    I got three recommendations on my first day, ALL over 300 miles away. Complicated right? I sent a message to customer service with an "auto response," and then I started getting totally opposite matches than what I felt strongly about.

    Some man just messaged me and asked if I was open to having more kids. His profile says he wants kids, mine in NO WAY 100% on wanting kids. My kids are grown, and that was rewarding and great, but babies?NO.

    Instead of offering a seven-day trial or notifying me that there are ZERO matches for me in my whole state, they just take and hope! Try anything else.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 7 out 9 people found this review helpful

    The site is not worth it

    • Pennsylvania,
    • Jul 26, 2017
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    Many of my matches do not even have pictures, so I have no idea if they are even real or if the people are active. 90% of the profiles are also barely filled out, so there isn't much to know about the other person. It's a complete waste of money, and I paid more than $200 for a six-month subscription. They are really making money off of educated people thinking this site has high-quality matches. I would not recommend it to anyone.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 11 out 12 people found this review helpful

    Definitely not my choice

    • California,
    • Jul 15, 2017
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    I paid for six months, and I knew after four days it wasn't a fit. They wouldn't refund my money. Watched for a couple more months since they would give me my money back. Same guys I wasn't interested in over and over. Very sad!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 10 out 12 people found this review helpful

    Waste of time and money

    Elite is terrible. They send you "matches" from all over the country. They ask you why you are erasing "matches," and when you reply that they are too far away, they say "Thanks for helping us improve," but they keep sending matches from out of state, even though you have put in your settings not to. The profile test they use is highly flawed, absurd and inaccurate. Do your self a favor, run from this site.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 11 out 12 people found this review helpful

    Flush your cash

    • Van Nuys, CA,
    • Jun 28, 2017
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    If you want to simply flush money down the toilet and don't like Vegas, join Elite Singles. There is NOTHING that makes it any more elite than other dating sights. They'll take your cash, and you will NEVER meet anyone from there site. I have had 43 visitors in five months, and two people contacted me. I've sent dozens of "smiles" and messages and got no response. It's not that I'm ugly. I am told I am beautiful several times a week. This site is impossible to navigate and won't let you browse the profiles. Only they can fix you up. The WORST dating site and I've been on most of them. DON'T JOIN!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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    • Jul 11, 2017

      Kimberly H.

      I had the exact same experience with EliteSingles. I always had about 70 matches, maybe a dozen or so men who looked at my profile. I got two smiles the whole time. I'm not unattractive, and I am complimented on my looks often.

      The two attempts I made to contact other members, resulted in no response. The person I connected with ended up making and breaking dates with me after I offered him an easy out. He insisted that he was interested in dating. He stood me up and texted me two days later to tell me that the EliteSingles process was too much for him. He contacted me to make the date.

      Definitely not worth the money and they ended up refunding me.

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  • 9 out 11 people found this review helpful

    Rip off

    I have only received a few match suggestions in the six weeks I've been a member. Those suggestions were ridiculous (and no pictures, which makes me wonder if they're fake profiles). I haven't received any suggestions in weeks, yet I sign in every day. There is no option to actively look through member profiles. They also made it VERY difficult to cancel the auto-renewal. Stay away from Elite Singles!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 12 out 13 people found this review helpful

    Scam-like policies

    • Denver, CO,
    • Jun 23, 2017
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    I signed up for Elite Singles because I was lured in by the idea of a partner who would understand the sacrifices I make in the line of my career. Instead, I found a bunch of men who were effectively nonresponsive. I filled out my entire profile to nearly 96% complete. I reviewed my matches faithfully every day for a month. I sent out messages to anyone I was interested in, and I never got one single, solitary response. In frustration, I signed up for another dating app, using their free features. On there, I was able to arrange several dates within the first week.

    I basically forgot I even had the app at that point. And then, I get home from having been out of cell range for most of a day to a notice that my subscription has been renewed. I immediately cancel and contact them about a refund. I am then informed that they give a 24-hour renewal notice period, after which they renew and will not refund.

    In today's day and age, 24 hours is a laughable period for anything, but especially something that is going to take your money and not offer any recourse to you, furthermore so on a site that claims it caters to busy professionals. I can think of only one thing that does this, and it is called a scam. Their standard language email offered me the consolation that I have the service until the end of my new term, as if that's some sort of benefit. If I wanted the service, I wouldn't have canceled the first second I was aware of the issue.

    If you want zero response and scam-like policies, feel free to sign up.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 10 out 10 people found this review helpful

    Review of my Elite Singles dating experience

    • Eastover, SC,
    • Jun 15, 2017
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    I have been on the site two months. I have met two men who have become friends. We text. One rarely due to his work. The other more often. It is safe to say we will probably never meet due to the nature of our relationship, which is strictly plutonic.

    Most of the men have not even made a response. Most of those who have, responded kindly to tell me they were seeing others, and those who texted only once, only said "hello" and that was all. One man didn't want me to contact him and was very rude. One man asked me out but then broke up with me because he had three other women texting him. One man told me we would not be a good match but didn't say why.

    I think I can say through these examples that this site is a major disappointment. I think these men see themselves as being young and handsome. They do not see themselves realistically. There are more women on the site than men. This site is not fun or helpful. It has mostly been hurtful and insulting. The only good thing I can say about it is I have found only one scam artist on this site as opposed to many on others.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 14 out 15 people found this review helpful

    Elite, a cut above other UK sites? Don't think so.

    • United Kingdom,
    • Jun 7, 2017
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    This site is far away from "Elite" as you can get.

    I have joined EliteSingles and have paid £149.70 ($194.03) for a six-month premium membership (unlimited communication and intelligent matchmaking - you get what their computer system thinks is suitable). You are not able to search for any matches on your own, take what is given to you and pay for its basis, with no search option what so ever.

    This site promised that it has a disproportionate amount of graduate professionals and sophisticated singles, 71% to be precise. Everything about this site would suggest a higher caliber of potential mates, to cut a long story short, (shorter than the 30 minutes it took to fill out a multiple choice personality profile before joining).

    Thirty minutes of questions asking questions then to be presented with seven potential matches, none of whom I remotely liked and not in line with what I would look for in a date, and to make matters worse, you can’t specify what you want; it’s all based on your personality and what their algorithm suggests for you.

    I was looking forward to meeting sophisticated singles above the average, but my matches were carpenters, builders and truck drivers! These matches I was given I would expect to find on Match.com.

    Once you were presented with totally unsuitable matches, you have to wait 24 hours for the next set of potentials to be emailed to you.

    By day four they seemed to have run out of men, and I was not given any matches at all.

    To add to their choices, they offer you a handful of wildcards each day, but unless you are willing to travel across the country for a date, you can also rule these ones out.

    I’d give EliteSingles one star. It’s not Elite, it’s the most expensive at £69.95 (one-month membership Premium Light), and I think totally misleading in its ethos.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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    • Aug 16, 2017

      Sharron

      I would not recommend this website. They don't even have a customer service line to help you. I couldn't see my matches for the last two weeks and my subscription doesn't end until the end of August. I tried emailing them three times and no one responded. I tried to find a customer support number on Google since they don't list one on their site.

      When I called the number, a technical support guy answers and asks me for my email. Then, proceeds to tell me the reason why I can't see my matches because my account is being used by someone in Mexico City.

      He then tells me that I've been hacked and I need to get the computer fixed and the virus removed. He also tells me how much it's going to cost. Of course, I didn't give him my information. This was phishing and I knew to hang up. Bottom line, it's a scam. Don't waste your time.

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