A mother of a 6-year-old boy was so completely impossible to work for that I discontinued working for her after five days. Believe it or not, it was not because her son smeared his poop on the back side door of my car. Please know this wasn’t a bowel movement, he put his finger up his butt hole to dig out poop and smear on the inside of my car door. He then violently kicked my car air vent located on the back of console between the front seats, before taking off his seat belt. When I stopped the car to secure him again, I saw the poop and had to clean it up. Even still, I was willing to continue to care for him because I still found him sweet and sensitive enough of the time, and even though I told his mother that taking him in my care was no longer an option, she later talked me into trying it again the next week, which I did, and all was fine about that.
The day after the poop and kicking incident, the boy’s mother firmly informed me that my description to her of what happened in my car was not how I was to talk to her. She said that using the word “disaster” was not acceptable. I apologized and figured I would do my best not to make her feel bad if something happened.
Of the five times I worked for her, two of the scheduled days she was not at the house at the agreed upon time and I was left waiting for her to arrive. She changed the agreed upon time for work several times, without notice, but I said nothing. She continually forgot schedules and details. I was alarmed to see her parking her car in the middle of the car lane at the school parking lot, blocking/preventing other cars who may try to pull out of their parking stall, then chatting it up with the teachers, prolonging a potential problem, and revealing her disrespectfulness. But the deal breaker was when she began harassing me with endless extremely rude text messages. Very early on a day I was not scheduled to work for her, she began a plethora of harassing text messages:
Starting on a Monday at 7:46 in the morning, she began accusing me via text of losing the Target gift card and demanding why I didn’t leave it at the same place as the last time. Not only did I leave it at the same place (with the receipt attached), but I texted her of this on that same day. It was ironic to see that my previous text to her detailed this, but she did not read it. A minute later she tells me it’s not okay that I let her son have it, and went on and on about how it is my responsibility to safeguard her things.
A minute after that, she demanded that I also produce the Ruby’s gift card used that same day. I had already told her that day that the $15 balance was exceeded and the waitress never came back after I gave it to her. She apparently forgot and was sure that I had misused her card and began reprimanding me about my carelessness and accusing me that the balance was $25. She forgot that we used the card the previous week also. When I reminded her about that, she then accused me of not being truthful due to that she found it highly suspicious that the $15 balance would be used up to the exact dollar amount as she found it hard to believe. I told her I just paid the rest in cash out of my pocket. She then said she believed me, but reprimand me again for not giving her the receipt (that the waitress never gave me and I told about, but she forgot, again).
All this harassing texting was going on while I was on the phone with my brother who had a motorcycle accident the previous day and needed me to help him. I told her that I may need to visit my brother (out of state) to help drive him while he recovers from the surgery. She then said, “Are you canceling work for today?” She forgot that I work for another family Mondays, Tuesdays and some Fridays and that I was not scheduled for her until Wednesday, 2 and 1/2 days away. She continued to ask me to work that Monday and the next day and I had to repeatedly let her know I was not available and had to keep reminding her of my schedule.
Then she demanded to know why I would work Monday and Tuesday for another family, then leave town to help my brother on Wednesday. I told her that the pin that was put in his ankle prevented him from doing anything for two days. Then she wanted to know the time of my airline flight and insinuated I was lying to her. Not that it was any of her business, but I let her know that I would be driving. She then said she found my canceling for Wednesday (2 and 1/2 days’ notice) was unacceptable to her due to it was “so last minute.”
I found all these 51 text messages in a just a few hours time to be extremely rude, obtrusive and disrespectful and decided to discontinue working for her. So, I had my friend return her house key with a note that I will be assisting my brother for several weeks off and on and I wish her the best, but I could not continue working for her. I had to change my cell number because she would not stop harassing me with crazy texts.
She complained to Care.com, and they promptly canceled my membership, without notice or explanation. I had three reviews all with 5 stars, as well as a couple new potential contacts I was working with.
Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend