About Elite Singles

By HighYa Research Team
Published on: Jan 2, 2016

Billing themselves as “a professional dating site for busy American singles,” EliteSingles claims to help you find a like-minded match, regardless of race, religion, age, or sexual preference.

Compared to other dating sites, EliteSingles does this by requiring members to complete a detailed personality test (don’t worry, we’ll cover this in greater detail shortly). Then, they’ll use these results to send you 3-7 potential matches per day, which allows you to interact with others while still living your busy life. Or, as EliteSingles calls it, “streamlining the process.”

In fact, EliteSingles claims that more than 2/3 of their members hold either a bachelor’s, master’s, or doctorate degree, which means that they’re probably just as busy as you are. In addition, EliteSingles also claims that they gain 18,000 new members per week, with an average gender split of 43% male and 57% female, mostly between the ages of 30 and 55.

As a busy professional, there’s no doubt that finding true love can seem like a daunting task. I mean, where would you find the time in your hectic schedule?

But can EliteSingles help you find the right match? Do their prices provide a solid value? Are there any other considerations you should keep in mind? We’ll cover all the basics here, so you can decide if EliteSingles is worth your time and money.

Since EliteSingles’ personality test is arguably their main selling point, we’ll begin there.

EliteSingles’ Personality Test and Matching System

The 200 questions found in EliteSingles’ personality test are based on the Five Factor Model developed by Robert McCrae and Paul Costa, which measures “openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.”

Because of the test’s length, you can save your progress, log out, and return to finish at a later time, although it will need to be completed within 15 weeks of starting.

Once you’ve completed your test though, you won’t be able to go back and repeat it or change your answers at a later date. Which is why EliteSingles recommends answering as honestly as you can the first time around.

As long as you’re an EliteSingles member, you’ll be able to view the test results under your personal profile. For more information, be sure to read through EliteSingles’ Personality Test page.

An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.​An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.

From there, Elite Singles will use these results, along with their “scientific matching algorithm,” to “help introduce members with similar traits to one another, [in an effort] to give people the best chance at having a happy, long-term relationship.”

This is accomplished by sending you 3-7 matches per day, which uses 3 main criteria: your personality results from above, your relationship preferences (e.g. kids, distance, preferred age, etc.), and your location. Another factor that can impact the number of matches EliteSingles sends to you is how often you’re active on the site. In other words, the more you log on, the more matches you’ll receive.

In fact, if you’re not active enough (the company doesn’t provide any clarification about this point), you might lose your recommendations—and stop being recommended to others—altogether.

Note: Because EliteSingles’ algorithm is proprietary, we’re not told exactly how their system decides which matches to send you. However, it doesn’t appear to be based solely on how closely someone matches your personality traits, since they claim: “We’re convinced that the best relationships are between people who are not 100% identical, but enjoy a mixture of common denominators and complementary characteristics.”

But once you find someone you’re interested in, what can you do from there? We’ll get to that in a second, but let’s wrap up this section with some concerns surrounding the Five Factor Model.

Is the Five Factor Model Legit?

Is the Five Factor Model a legitimate psychological theory? Yes. But like any other theory, it’s come under a great deal of scrutiny since first being released in 1992.

Unless you’re a psychologist, most of the critiques related to the Five Factor Model will probably bore you to tears. In layman’s terms though, there are 3 main concerns:

  1. Many have argued that the Five Factor Model can’t help explain or predict anything—included potential love interests. In other words, it might not be accurate for gauging how well your personality will match with others. Why? Because it doesn’t account for cultural differences.

  2. The model only accounts for 56% of known personality traits, which means that it might leave a lot of “gray area” between you and a potential match.

  3. Finally, there isn’t a theory that the model is grounded on (which goes back to the first critique above). Instead, it’s basically just a set of data points that are clustered together in a “less than optimal” manner.

Reaching Out to Your EliteSingles Matches

In a nutshell, EliteSingles provides 4 different ways to communicate with your matches:

  • Smiles – This is often the first step, which is basically like sending an emoticon to someone, letting them know you’re interested.
  • 5 Questions – Here, you’ll be able to select 5 different questions from a list of 50 and send them to your match. Then, they’ll be able to select their answers from a list, or type a custom answer. According to EliteSingles, this can act as a sort of ice breaker to help get the conversation started.
  • Likes & Dislikes – You can send a list of the characteristics and habits you’re looking for, and they can do the same. This can help you compare each other’s answers a figure out whether or not you want to continue communicating.
  • Send a message – This is a “personalized text message” that can be sent at any time.

EliteSingles’ Membership Pricing

Signing up for an EliteSingles’ membership and taking their personality test can be done free of charge. However, if you want to begin receiving daily matches, you’ll have to purchase a paid membership. This will cost you:

  • 1 Month: $59.95
  • 3 Months: $34.95 per month (one charge of $104.85)
  • 6 Months: $24.95 per month (one charge of $149.70)
  • 12 Months: $17.95 per month (one charge of $215.40)

EliteSingles also offers a Premium Plus program, which will give you “the added benefit of receiving up to 20 additional matches per day via the “Have you met” feature.” This will cost:

  • 1 Month: $69.95
  • 3 Months: $39.95 per month (one charge of $119.85)
  • 6 Months: $29.95 per month (one charge of $179.70)
  • 12 Months: $19.95 per month (one charge of $239.40)

Regardless of which option you choose, remember that your EliteSingles membership will automatically renew at the end of the term.

Pro tip: We’ve reviewed several other popular dating sites here at HighYa (more about this next), and we often find that in addition to your membership price, you’ll have to pay to communicate with other users. Some charge for this directly, while others use a credit-based system (e.g. sending a smile will cost you 1 credit, sending a message 10 credits, etc.), which can quickly add up.

With limited pricing information available, this might not be the case with EliteSingles, although it’s definitely something worth keeping in mind.

To help answer some of your questions, EliteSingles does feature a fairly extensive FAQ section, although we didn’t uncover anything additional regarding pricing. And if you have any direct questions, customer support can be reached at support@elitesingles.com.

EliteSingles’ Competition and Customer Feedback

The truth is that it’s difficult to compete with giants like OKCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony, so most recent additions to the online dating industry focus on specific niches. This includes FarmersOnly (those looking to meet rural individuals), TripTogether (those who like to travel), ChristianMingle.com (Christians looking for other Christians), OurTime (those over 50), and more.

So what’s EliteSingles’ unique angle? Although the Five Factor Model they use might be unique, personality tests in general certainly are not. In fact, all of the top 3 sites noted above use in-depth personality tests to help match you with other singles, so it doesn’t appear there’s any advantage there.

Is it the fact that most of EliteSingles’ users are high-level professionals with college degrees? Here’s where things get interesting. Why? Because it doesn’t appear that you have to meet minimum educational or career requirements in order to join. So, while EliteSingles claims that 2/3 of their users have college-level or advanced degrees, this doesn’t appear to be a deciding factor.

Despite the site’s somewhat fuzzy advantage over the competition, are love-seekers happy with their experience?

One DatingSitesReviews, a couple dozen EliteSingles customers had nothing positive to say about the company. Common complaints cited:

  • Matching: The same 8 matches sent as soon as you join (several users from different parts of the world all said the same thing).

  • Proximity: You can’t view how close your matches are. In many instances, matches were several states away, even though they indicated that they were only interested in matches within a 50 mile radius.

  • High Price: In addition to your monthly membership, you have to pay even more for all communication.

  • Poor Customer Service: This included boilerplate responses to detailed questions, as well as difficulty cancelling memberships.

Outside of this, we only found affiliate sites and biased reviews relating to EliteSingles.

» See Also: Best Online Dating Sites of 2019: An Expert Guide for All Ages

Is EliteSingles an Ideal Dating Site for You?

Looking for love isn’t easy. If you’re a busy professional, it takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there and be open to communicating with complete strangers. Add to this long tests and high prices, and it makes it even more important that you start your online dating experience on the right foot.

To this end, we think there are a lot of other solid choices compared to EliteSingles. Their pricing model seems in line with many of the other dating sites we’ve reviewed that customers are calling a “scam,” and their online feedback—while limited—certainly doesn’t seem positive. On top of this, there doesn’t seem to be anything especially unique about EliteSingles that meaningfully differentiates it from the competition.

Our recommendation? First, to help you stay scam-free during the process, be sure to read 6 Red Flags When Dating Online. Then, we’d suggest exploring more mainstream online dating options before signing up for an EliteSingles membership.

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Bottom Line: 6% would recommend it to a friend
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  • 2 out 4 people found this review helpful

    Found love fast

    • Illinois,
    • Nov 29, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    I may be very lucky, but I ended up meeting and am now engaged to the first person that was recommended as a match on the site. On other sites and apps, both free and paid, I never even had a conversation with another person. On Elite I had several good interactions, but matches were mostly far away and that usually stopped the conversation for most people. I do live kind of in the middle of nowhere, so distance wasn't a huge issue for me. After a couple of months on the site, again I'm probably just lucky. I messaged the first person I had been matched with a second time because I was visiting the area she lived in. I sent her one the first day I was on the app, but she didn't respond. This time she did, we went out, and now we are engaged after a relatively short amount of time. I don't know if the matching algorithm really works, but seems to be good in this case.

    I think Elite is no different than any other app or site. It's all luck. But for me, it was definitely worthwhile. Even if I hadn't met someone on the site, it was the only place where I met people who were even open to talking to me. Maybe it's the type of people that are on the site? Maybe the higher cost means only people who are serious about meeting someone are on it?

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 0 out 2 people found this review helpful

    Excellent women

    • Edgewater, NJ,
    • Mar 24, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    Personally, I have had a great experience with this website. I met many wonderful women in a course of just a few months. The questionnaire to sign up for Elite Singles is very appropriate and usually people are honest in answering these questions. I finally met someone I am planning to marry and spend the rest of my life with her. Thank you Elite Singles for making it happen and change the direction of my life for better. Keep doing what you are doing, and I wish many others will be as lucky as I am!

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 6 out 13 people found this review helpful

    Different planets

    • Omaha, NE,
    • Mar 2, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    I don't know what most of these people are talking about. I do not view this site as a scam. If someone meets people who lie, that is not the fault of the website.

    The mobile app sucks really bad, so you really should only use the web app in a browser. It's true that you are not going to get a lot of matches in your city, unless you are in a big city. I'm ok with that. In my view, it is unlikely that the love of my life will be in the exact same city as me. Different strokes for different folks. If you only want local matches, then use another app.

    I have met people from this site who I have been very impressed by. There are very few fake accounts. Most are real people trying to find a real relationship with someone who has ambition and a career. I'm not the most handsome man in the world, but a well-written profile will go FAR on this site. Check into the app once or twice a day and you will get a steady, but not overwhelming, stream of matches.

    Every site has a different mechanic. The mechanic of this site suits me just fine. Good luck in finding your love - whichever site you use.

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 2 out 5 people found this review helpful

    Found my soulmate here...

    • Lowbanks, Ontario, Canada,
    • Oct 17, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    Like other dating sites, you will have to go through many (or some) crazy people until you find somebody (if ever).

    I was lucky and I am happy.

    Unfortunately, these profile evaluations don't help much. You have to contact and see how it goes.

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 3 out 9 people found this review helpful

    We found each other

    • Texas,
    • Nov 30, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    I figured paying for a dating app would give me better options to choose from. I was NOT at all interested in someone with so much baggage that I would be held responsible for it, plus I was NOT interested in any one nighters! I chose distance for good reason...I wanted to really get to know someone.

    There were plenty of strange characters that could easily be deleted, and you had to be very safe, very selective, very good at reading through profiles.

    You can find "your" person, just be patient, take plenty of time to talk about anything, then when you speak personally, keep talking, keep asking, you'll know if it clicks. When you meet, you'll know if the chemistry is there.

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 17 out 17 people found this review helpful


    • Canada,
    • Aug 19, 2016
    • Verified Reviewer

    I am glad to have read your article. I signed up for a basic membership and am really disappointed. This is all new to me so I will start by saying that it was overwhelming to fill in the forms on Elite Singles. Then when a match was made I was extremely disappointed to find that I couldn't even read the message from the guy who sent it unless I paid for a membership. Ridiculous! How do I even know the match was legit? Anyways, I will take the advice of this article and try a more mainstream approach, or just wait and see if Mr. Right shows up at my local grocery store.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 11 out 12 people found this review helpful

    Their site gets hacked like a sieve

    • St. Louis, MO,
    • Jan 26, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    Although some aspects of the site are ok, my profile was hacked and I was emailed by some scammer. Women also told me that their contact info was hacked by scammers. Maybe credit card info too. I told them and they didn't respond. It is a German company. They email but can't be called. I'd discourage you from using them.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 9 out 9 people found this review helpful


    • Houston, TX,
    • Feb 3, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I had been with this dating site for about a month and I think that it is enough time to get an impression about its quality. The first shock that I experienced was when I started to get matched with people who have only high school or "attended college." What makes someone elite? I specified that I was looking for someone who is a done with graduate studies.

    Second, it keeps resetting the matches' location to distances that I am not willing to travel. I commute already enough to have dating become another "must-do thing."

    Thirdly, it keeps changing the height of candidate males to people who are shorter than me!

    Lastly, the age range - it does not let me set matches to specific age range but sends people who are out of my range of acceptable age difference!

    Overall, I am not giving it a one-star rating because it does have a personality profile. So, if you are someone who knows what you want (not even race preferences are respected in this site), stay away from it.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 4 out 4 people found this review helpful


    • Ohio,
    • Feb 15, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I signed up for three months and here are my experiences.

    1. They advertise as a site for highly educated people. Most "matches" suggested for me had high school or community college educations. Some had grade school. I'd say less than 25% had bachelor's degrees or higher.

    2. They advertise as a site for professionals. There were a few physicians, lawyers or college professors. Most were salespeople, project supervisors, and even some truck mechanics.

    3. There were few matches with people within 75 miles. They offer about 20 "wild card matches" a day. These matches were people from as far as 600 miles away.

    4. Their headquarters are in Germany. If you have a concern you can call an international number during German business hours or try to complete an online form, which doesn't appear after you click the link to it. The link to the form doesn't work.

    5. They alerted me very quickly of two scammers they identified. One was obvious to me, the other not.

    6. One of the profile questions is whether you'd be interested in children. A large portion of men over 65 said either "yes, of course" or "maybe in the future." The site is for people over 50. Not sure where they expected the children to come from.

    7. There were lots of matches whose hobbies were fishing, bowling, and motorcycle riding.

    8. I had one extended "conversation" with a match. He eventually told me he had a history of relationship problems. He then told me I wasn't a very pleasant person and stopped writing.

    I guess I wasn't expecting much so disappointment may be a strong word, but I'm not signing up again.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 4 out 4 people found this review helpful

    Scam alert - multi sites and users

    • Dallas, TX,
    • Apr 22, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I signed up with Elite thinking it was going to be a great service exclusive to paid members for starters. Well, that was a scam to begin with, and the matches are not very good. I chose a certain ethnicity and have been matched with about every type.


    I'm on Elite, she signed up for Silver Singles. From what I can tell there are other sites that use the same subscribers in various sites.

    Imagine if we were not divorced and both happened to sign up, and then be matched this way! Lawsuit city...

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 5 out 5 people found this review helpful

    Not for me

    • Washington,
    • Jul 29, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    There is nothing "elite" about Elite Singles. Most of these people have no higher degree. An associates degree is not "highly educated." The caliber of the men in my age range is questionable...they are largely blue-collar. I was expecting educated, polished people like myself with master's degrees and doctorate degrees. The ad on TV is false advertising. I have nothing in common with these men.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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