About Elite Singles

Billing themselves as “a professional dating site for busy American singles,” EliteSingles claims to help you find a like-minded match, regardless of race, religion, age, or sexual preference.

Compared to other dating sites, EliteSingles does this by requiring members to complete a detailed personality test (don’t worry, we’ll cover this in greater detail shortly). Then, they’ll use these results to send you 3-7 potential matches per day, which allows you to interact with others while still living your busy life. Or, as EliteSingles calls it, “streamlining the process.”

In fact, EliteSingles claims that more than 2/3 of their members hold either a bachelor’s, master’s, or doctorate degree, which means that they’re probably just as busy as you are. In addition, EliteSingles also claims that they gain 18,000 new members per week, with an average gender split of 43% male and 57% female, mostly between the ages of 30 and 55.

As a busy professional, there’s no doubt that finding true love can seem like a daunting task. I mean, where would you find the time in your hectic schedule?

But can EliteSingles help you find the right match? Do their prices provide a solid value? Are there any other considerations you should keep in mind? We’ll cover all the basics here, so you can decide if EliteSingles is worth your time and money.

Since EliteSingles’ personality test is arguably their main selling point, we’ll begin there.

EliteSingles’ Personality Test & Matching System

The 200 questions found in EliteSingles’ personality test are based on the Five Factor Model developed by Robert McCrae and Paul Costa, which measures “openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.”

Because of the test’s length, you can save your progress, log out, and return to finish at a later time, although it will need to be completed within 15 weeks of starting.

Once you’ve completed your test though, you won’t be able to go back and repeat it or change your answers at a later date. Which is why EliteSingles recommends answering as honestly as you can the first time around.

As long as you’re an EliteSingles member, you’ll be able to view the test results under your personal profile. For more information, be sure to read through EliteSingles’ Personality Test page.

An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.​An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.

From there, Elite Singles will use these results, along with their “scientific matching algorithm,” to “help introduce members with similar traits to one another, [in an effort] to give people the best chance at having a happy, long-term relationship.”

This is accomplished by sending you 3-7 matches per day, which uses 3 main criteria: your personality results from above, your relationship preferences (e.g. kids, distance, preferred age, etc.), and your location. Another factor that can impact the number of matches EliteSingles sends to you is how often you’re active on the site. In other words, the more you log on, the more matches you’ll receive.

In fact, if you’re not active enough (the company doesn’t provide any clarification about this point), you might lose your recommendations—and stop being recommended to others—altogether.

Note: Because EliteSingles’ algorithm is proprietary, we’re not told exactly how their system decides which matches to send you. However, it doesn’t appear to be based solely on how closely someone matches your personality traits, since they claim: “We’re convinced that the best relationships are between people who are not 100% identical, but enjoy a mixture of common denominators and complementary characteristics.”

But once you find someone you’re interested in, what can you do from there? We’ll get to that in a second, but let’s wrap up this section with some concerns surrounding the Five Factor Model.

Is the Five Factor Model Legit?

Is the Five Factor Model a legitimate psychological theory? Yes. But like any other theory, it’s come under a great deal of scrutiny since first being released in 1992.

Unless you’re a psychologist, most of the critiques related to the Five Factor Model will probably bore you to tears. In layman’s terms though, there are 3 main concerns:

  1. Many have argued that the Five Factor Model can’t help explain or predict anything—included potential love interests. In other words, it might not be accurate for gauging how well your personality will match with others. Why? Because it doesn’t account for cultural differences.
  2. The model only accounts for 56% of known personality traits, which means that it might leave a lot of “gray area” between you and a potential match.
  3. Finally, there isn’t a theory that the model is grounded on (which goes back to the first critique above). Instead, it’s basically just a set of data points that are clustered together in a “less than optimal” manner.

Reaching Out To Your EliteSingles Matches

In a nutshell, EliteSingles provides 4 different ways to communicate with your matches:

  • Smiles – This is often the first step, which is basically like sending an emoticon to someone, letting them know you’re interested.
  • 5 Questions – Here, you’ll be able to select 5 different questions from a list of 50 and send them to your match. Then, they’ll be able to select their answers from a list, or type a custom answer. According to EliteSingles, this can act as a sort of ice breaker to help get the conversation started.
  • Likes & Dislikes – You can send a list of the characteristics and habits you’re looking for, and they can do the same. This can help you compare each other’s answers a figure out whether or not you want to continue communicating.
  • Send a message – This is a “personalized text message” that can be sent at any time.

How much will all of these features cost you?

EliteSingles’ Membership Pricing

Signing up for an EliteSingles’ membership and taking their personality test can be done free of charge. However, if you want to begin receiving daily matches, you’ll have to purchase a paid membership. This will cost you:

  • 1 Month: $59.95
  • 3 Months: $34.95 per month (one charge of $104.85)
  • 6 Months: $24.95 per month (one charge of $149.70)
  • 12 Months: $17.95 per month (one charge of $215.40)

EliteSingles also offers a Premium Plus program, which will give you “the added benefit of receiving up to 20 additional matches per day via the “Have you met” feature.” This will cost:

  • 1 Month: $69.95
  • 3 Months: $39.95 per month (one charge of $119.85)
  • 6 Months: $29.95 per month (one charge of $179.70)
  • 12 Months: $19.95 per month (one charge of $239.40)

Regardless of which option you choose, remember that your EliteSingles membership will automatically renew at the end of the term.

Pro tip: We’ve reviewed several other popular dating sites here at HighYa (more about this next), and we often find that in addition to your membership price, you’ll have to pay to communicate with other users. Some charge for this directly, while others use a credit-based system (e.g. sending a smile will cost you 1 credit, sending a message 10 credits, etc.), which can quickly add up.

With limited pricing information available, this might not be the case with EliteSingles, although it’s definitely something worth keeping in mind.

To help answer some of your questions, EliteSingles does feature a fairly extensive FAQ section, although we didn’t uncover anything additional regarding pricing. And if you have any direct questions, customer support can be reached at support@elitesingles.com.

EliteSingles’ Competition & Customer Feedback

The truth is that it’s difficult to compete with giants like OKCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony, so most recent additions to the online dating industry focus on specific niches. This includes FarmersOnly (those looking to meet rural individuals), TripTogether (those who like to travel), ChristianMingle.com (Christians looking for other Christians), OurTime (those over 50), and more.

So what’s EliteSingles’ unique angle? Although the Five Factor Model they use might be unique, personality tests in general certainly are not. In fact, all of the top 3 sites noted above use in-depth personality tests to help match you with other singles, so it doesn’t appear there’s any advantage there.

Is it the fact that most of EliteSingles’ users are high-level professionals with college degrees? Here’s where things get interesting. Why? Because it doesn’t appear that you have to meet minimum educational or career requirements in order to join. So, while EliteSingles claims that 2/3 of their users have college-level or advanced degrees, this doesn’t appear to be a deciding factor.

Despite the site’s somewhat fuzzy advantage over the competition, are love-seekers happy with their experience?

One DatingSitesReviews, a couple dozen EliteSingles customers had nothing positive to say about the company. Common complaints cited:

  • Matching: The same 8 matches sent as soon as you join (several users from different parts of the world all said the same thing).
  • Proximity: You can’t view how close your matches are. In many instances, matches were several states away, even though they indicated that they were only interested in matches within a 50 mile radius.
  • High Price: In addition to your monthly membership, you have to pay even more for all communication.
  • Poor Customer Service: This included boilerplate responses to detailed questions, as well as difficulty cancelling memberships.

Outside of this, we only found affiliate sites and biased reviews relating to EliteSingles.

Wrapping everything up, should you lay your heart on the line with EliteSingles?

Is EliteSingles Really An Elite Online Dating Site?

Looking for love isn’t easy. If you’re a busy professional, it takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there and be open to communicating with complete strangers. Add to this long tests and high prices, and it makes it even more important that you start your online dating experience on the right foot.

To this end, we think there are a lot of other solid choices compared to EliteSingles. Their pricing model seems in line with many of the other dating sites we’ve reviewed that customers are calling a “scam,” and their online feedback—while limited—certainly doesn’t seem positive. On top of this, there doesn’t seem to be anything especially unique about EliteSingles that meaningfully differentiates it from the competition.

Our recommendation? First, to help you stay scam-free during the process, be sure to read 6 Red Flags When Dating Online. Then, we’d suggest exploring more mainstream online dating options before signing up for an EliteSingles membership.

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116 Consumer Reviews for Elite Singles

Average Consumer Rating: 1.1
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5 star: 1 4 star: 3 3 star: 0 2 star: 4 1 star:  108
Bottom Line: 6% would recommend it to a friend
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  • 2 out 2 people found this review helpful

    Not what they say they are

    • Springfield, PA,
    • Feb 16, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    There is no way that all the people on this website could be classified as "Elite," as I understand the meaning of the word. Also, the website is user-unfriendly and every time I logged in I had to change the parameters again. I didn't want someone who was 300 miles or more away! I didn't want someone from age 1-100, either.

    Make sure you cancel your membership BEFORE it automatically renews. I canceled the day I got the email (one day too late) and was charged for SIX months. When I asked for a refund, they told me I had "no right" to a refund and would not give me my money back. I have used other sites and canceled, then given a refund for the time not used.

    This site is just like all the others...just keep that in mind if you sign up. People just move from one site to the next, so there are a lot of duplicates. And don't forget to cancel ahead of time, or prepare to pay money for services you no longer want.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 1 out 1 people found this review helpful

    Nothing "elite" about this site

    • Somerville, NJ,
    • Feb 16, 2019
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    There is nothing "elite" about this site, other than the cost. I chose this site as I believed the hype that it attracted those with college degrees. Not so. Plenty of men with high school diplomas contacted me, even after I marked education as "highly important." I was sent matches from hundreds of miles away and the pool of men seems quite small. From my perspective, this site draws men who seem arrogant. Not a fan and I will return to Match as they have a larger number of prospects from which to choose.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 1 out 1 people found this review helpful

    The worst dating site on the planet

    • New York,
    • Feb 15, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I am not sure whether this is a scam, or whether this is a real company. There is no phone number or email for this company. I have signed up after reading that this is a good dating site. They charged me $173 before even allowing me to go on the site. Once I did, I found out that the men then connected me with have nothing to do with the qualifications that I have noted looking for. They are asking you hundreds of questions, to make you believe that they would do the right match, but while I was asking for a man 5'9" or taller, then matched me with men 5'6"; asked for Jewish, and they matched me with Christian; asked for professional and they matched me with blue collar.

    There is no place to call to complain, no email. Nothing. They just charge you and then do not provide the service they describe as providing. This is a scam and I hope that not many people will fall into the trap.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 1 out 1 people found this review helpful

    Disappointing

    • Ohio,
    • Feb 15, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I signed up for three months and here are my experiences.

    1. They advertise as a site for highly educated people. Most "matches" suggested for me had high school or community college educations. Some had grade school. I'd say less than 25% had bachelor's degrees or higher.

    2. They advertise as a site for professionals. There were a few physicians, lawyers or college professors. Most were salespeople, project supervisors, and even some truck mechanics.

    3. There were few matches with people within 75 miles. They offer about 20 "wild card matches" a day. These matches were people from as far as 600 miles away.

    4. Their headquarters are in Germany. If you have a concern you can call an international number during German business hours or try to complete an online form, which doesn't appear after you click the link to it. The link to the form doesn't work.

    5. They alerted me very quickly of two scammers they identified. One was obvious to me, the other not.

    6. One of the profile questions is whether you'd be interested in children. A large portion of men over 65 said either "yes, of course" or "maybe in the future." The site is for people over 50. Not sure where they expected the children to come from.

    7. There were lots of matches whose hobbies were fishing, bowling, and motorcycle riding.

    8. I had one extended "conversation" with a match. He eventually told me he had a history of relationship problems. He then told me I wasn't a very pleasant person and stopped writing.

    I guess I wasn't expecting much so disappointment may be a strong word, but I'm not signing up again.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 5 out 5 people found this review helpful

    Don't waste your money.

    • Michigan,
    • Feb 4, 2019
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    I spent $90 for a premium membership. I thought I'd give it a few weeks try and the one woman I talked to lived in Colorado, and I live in Michigan...that was one of their matches for me. I tried to get a refund for my six-month membership which they will decline. I'm now one month into membership and nothing, the few matches they have are at least 300 miles away. I've had way better luck on sites that are free. Don't waste your money on this fly by night site!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 6 out 6 people found this review helpful

    Disappointed

    • Houston, TX,
    • Feb 3, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I had been with this dating site for about a month and I think that it is enough time to get an impression about its quality. The first shock that I experienced was when I started to get matched with people who have only high school or "attended college." What makes someone elite? I specified that I was looking for someone who is a done with graduate studies.

    Second, it keeps resetting the matches' location to distances that I am not willing to travel. I commute already enough to have dating become another "must-do thing."

    Thirdly, it keeps changing the height of candidate males to people who are shorter than me!

    Lastly, the age range - it does not let me set matches to specific age range but sends people who are out of my range of acceptable age difference!

    Overall, I am not giving it a one-star rating because it does have a personality profile. So, if you are someone who knows what you want (not even race preferences are respected in this site), stay away from it.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 4 out 5 people found this review helpful

    Overrated

    • California,
    • Jan 23, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I have been on this dating website for a few months. It is a headache to look at the photos of the site’s members. Why? Because the dating site crops all photos too up close, like mug shots. You can’t see people’s bodies or photo background, it’s all FACES, up close. How many mug shots can you look at in a day? Why is this dating website FIXATED on cropping people’s photos to the closest close-up? It’s not helpful. You don’t know if the face you are looking at has a body at all or if they are even residents of planet earth. There is no way to tell, because Elite Singles only post photos of people’s FACES in mug shot mode. Disappointing, to say the least. I want my money back.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 6 out 10 people found this review helpful

    Membership payment

    Hi. I registered on this site on January 4, 2019 and I have paid my three months membership on the same day. I got my matches through email, but I cannot contact or send a message, every time they ask me for payment again.

    I tried to contact the customer care, I got an automatic reply ticket number 14625616, but I haven't managed to get anyone to assist me to this problem, and I still need service or to be refunded.

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 9 out 9 people found this review helpful

    Elite Singles is a scam

    • Syracuse, NY,
    • Jan 11, 2019
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    They promise you at least 20 matches per day and talk about how the quality of their service is great, but they are based in Germany, do not have phone support and just take your money and do not provide service.

    I had to go to my bank to get my money back after their scam.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 11 out 11 people found this review helpful

    Not as advertised

    • Lewisville, TX,
    • Jan 9, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I've been on the Elite Singles (ES) website for three months (bought the six-month package), and it has been a total waste of time and money. Over half of the profiles they send me have no picture, and I've noticed several duplicates of profiles I've previously deleted. Also, I've received several "security alert" emails regarding men who have contacted me, which tells me that ES is not pre-screening applicants well, as they claim to do (the lack of photos on many profiles also indicates that to me). Several of the profiles appear to be hastily created and contain next-to-nothing about the person. Again, where's the pre-screening? I am very disappointed with the site and hardly visit it anymore, even though I've paid for three more months. Save your money!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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    • Jan 10, 2019

      Denis B.

      I've been on the Elite Singles (ES) website for a year and it has been a total waste of time and money that equate to a scam. When it comes to dating women, 90% of the profiles posted are married or separated women in marital and civil partner relationships. When I suggested to EliteSingles support team they ought to require members to make visible an individual's civil partnership and/or marital status - they refused to entertain the idea, therefore, the ethic in design and usage of this site is questionable for those looking for a serious relationship. It is a hookup site and used by scammers to allure you away from the site to extort your money.

      Also, I've received several "security alert" emails regarding women who have contacted me, which tells me that ES is not pre-screening applicants well, as they claim to do and many of the photos are not authentic. Several of the profiles appear to be hastily created and contain next-to-nothing about the person, whether they have children or indeed work for a living in this day and age. I am very disappointed with the site and canceled my subscription even though I've paid for three more months.

      Save your money! I would not recommend this site to anyone looking for a serious relationship as equals. It's a hookup site for women who can't afford to date or afford an equal relationship.

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  • 10 out 10 people found this review helpful

    SCAM. If I could give it a zero I would.

    • Denver, CO,
    • Jan 6, 2019
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    I signed up for this site then deleted my account during the free trial period. I then got charged over $100 with no notice at all. When I tried to get a refund, I was told I could not because they only have a three-day refund period after the charge is posted. I have told them I deleted the account, told them this was an unauthorized charge, etc., to no avail. This is a scam to steal your money. Do not use.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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