About Elite Singles

Billing themselves as “a professional dating site for busy American singles,” EliteSingles claims to help you find a like-minded match, regardless of race, religion, age, or sexual preference.

Compared to other dating sites, EliteSingles does this by requiring members to complete a detailed personality test (don’t worry, we’ll cover this in greater detail shortly). Then, they’ll use these results to send you 3-7 potential matches per day, which allows you to interact with others while still living your busy life. Or, as EliteSingles calls it, “streamlining the process.”

In fact, EliteSingles claims that more than 2/3 of their members hold either a bachelor’s, master’s, or doctorate degree, which means that they’re probably just as busy as you are. In addition, EliteSingles also claims that they gain 18,000 new members per week, with an average gender split of 43% male and 57% female, mostly between the ages of 30 and 55.

As a busy professional, there’s no doubt that finding true love can seem like a daunting task. I mean, where would you find the time in your hectic schedule?

But can EliteSingles help you find the right match? Do their prices provide a solid value? Are there any other considerations you should keep in mind? We’ll cover all the basics here, so you can decide if EliteSingles is worth your time and money.

Since EliteSingles’ personality test is arguably their main selling point, we’ll begin there.

EliteSingles’ Personality Test & Matching System

The 200 questions found in EliteSingles’ personality test are based on the Five Factor Model developed by Robert McCrae and Paul Costa, which measures “openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.”

Because of the test’s length, you can save your progress, log out, and return to finish at a later time, although it will need to be completed within 15 weeks of starting.

Once you’ve completed your test though, you won’t be able to go back and repeat it or change your answers at a later date. Which is why EliteSingles recommends answering as honestly as you can the first time around.

As long as you’re an EliteSingles member, you’ll be able to view the test results under your personal profile. For more information, be sure to read through EliteSingles’ Personality Test page.

An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.​An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.

From there, Elite Singles will use these results, along with their “scientific matching algorithm,” to “help introduce members with similar traits to one another, [in an effort] to give people the best chance at having a happy, long-term relationship.”

This is accomplished by sending you 3-7 matches per day, which uses 3 main criteria: your personality results from above, your relationship preferences (e.g. kids, distance, preferred age, etc.), and your location. Another factor that can impact the number of matches EliteSingles sends to you is how often you’re active on the site. In other words, the more you log on, the more matches you’ll receive.

In fact, if you’re not active enough (the company doesn’t provide any clarification about this point), you might lose your recommendations—and stop being recommended to others—altogether.

Note: Because EliteSingles’ algorithm is proprietary, we’re not told exactly how their system decides which matches to send you. However, it doesn’t appear to be based solely on how closely someone matches your personality traits, since they claim: “We’re convinced that the best relationships are between people who are not 100% identical, but enjoy a mixture of common denominators and complementary characteristics.”

But once you find someone you’re interested in, what can you do from there? We’ll get to that in a second, but let’s wrap up this section with some concerns surrounding the Five Factor Model.

Is the Five Factor Model Legit?

Is the Five Factor Model a legitimate psychological theory? Yes. But like any other theory, it’s come under a great deal of scrutiny since first being released in 1992.

Unless you’re a psychologist, most of the critiques related to the Five Factor Model will probably bore you to tears. In layman’s terms though, there are 3 main concerns:

  1. Many have argued that the Five Factor Model can’t help explain or predict anything—included potential love interests. In other words, it might not be accurate for gauging how well your personality will match with others. Why? Because it doesn’t account for cultural differences.
  2. The model only accounts for 56% of known personality traits, which means that it might leave a lot of “gray area” between you and a potential match.
  3. Finally, there isn’t a theory that the model is grounded on (which goes back to the first critique above). Instead, it’s basically just a set of data points that are clustered together in a “less than optimal” manner.

Reaching Out To Your EliteSingles Matches

In a nutshell, EliteSingles provides 4 different ways to communicate with your matches:

  • Smiles – This is often the first step, which is basically like sending an emoticon to someone, letting them know you’re interested.
  • 5 Questions – Here, you’ll be able to select 5 different questions from a list of 50 and send them to your match. Then, they’ll be able to select their answers from a list, or type a custom answer. According to EliteSingles, this can act as a sort of ice breaker to help get the conversation started.
  • Likes & Dislikes – You can send a list of the characteristics and habits you’re looking for, and they can do the same. This can help you compare each other’s answers a figure out whether or not you want to continue communicating.
  • Send a message – This is a “personalized text message” that can be sent at any time.

How much will all of these features cost you?

EliteSingles’ Membership Pricing

Signing up for an EliteSingles’ membership and taking their personality test can be done free of charge. However, if you want to begin receiving daily matches, you’ll have to purchase a paid membership. This will cost you:

  • 1 Month: $59.95
  • 3 Months: $34.95 per month (one charge of $104.85)
  • 6 Months: $24.95 per month (one charge of $149.70)
  • 12 Months: $17.95 per month (one charge of $215.40)

EliteSingles also offers a Premium Plus program, which will give you “the added benefit of receiving up to 20 additional matches per day via the “Have you met” feature.” This will cost:

  • 1 Month: $69.95
  • 3 Months: $39.95 per month (one charge of $119.85)
  • 6 Months: $29.95 per month (one charge of $179.70)
  • 12 Months: $19.95 per month (one charge of $239.40)

Regardless of which option you choose, remember that your EliteSingles membership will automatically renew at the end of the term.

Pro tip: We’ve reviewed several other popular dating sites here at HighYa (more about this next), and we often find that in addition to your membership price, you’ll have to pay to communicate with other users. Some charge for this directly, while others use a credit-based system (e.g. sending a smile will cost you 1 credit, sending a message 10 credits, etc.), which can quickly add up.

With limited pricing information available, this might not be the case with EliteSingles, although it’s definitely something worth keeping in mind.

To help answer some of your questions, EliteSingles does feature a fairly extensive FAQ section, although we didn’t uncover anything additional regarding pricing. And if you have any direct questions, customer support can be reached at support@elitesingles.com.

EliteSingles’ Competition & Customer Feedback

The truth is that it’s difficult to compete with giants like OKCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony, so most recent additions to the online dating industry focus on specific niches. This includes FarmersOnly (those looking to meet rural individuals), TripTogether (those who like to travel), ChristianMingle.com (Christians looking for other Christians), OurTime (those over 50), and more.

So what’s EliteSingles’ unique angle? Although the Five Factor Model they use might be unique, personality tests in general certainly are not. In fact, all of the top 3 sites noted above use in-depth personality tests to help match you with other singles, so it doesn’t appear there’s any advantage there.

Is it the fact that most of EliteSingles’ users are high-level professionals with college degrees? Here’s where things get interesting. Why? Because it doesn’t appear that you have to meet minimum educational or career requirements in order to join. So, while EliteSingles claims that 2/3 of their users have college-level or advanced degrees, this doesn’t appear to be a deciding factor.

Despite the site’s somewhat fuzzy advantage over the competition, are love-seekers happy with their experience?

One DatingSitesReviews, a couple dozen EliteSingles customers had nothing positive to say about the company. Common complaints cited:

  • Matching: The same 8 matches sent as soon as you join (several users from different parts of the world all said the same thing).
  • Proximity: You can’t view how close your matches are. In many instances, matches were several states away, even though they indicated that they were only interested in matches within a 50 mile radius.
  • High Price: In addition to your monthly membership, you have to pay even more for all communication.
  • Poor Customer Service: This included boilerplate responses to detailed questions, as well as difficulty cancelling memberships.

Outside of this, we only found affiliate sites and biased reviews relating to EliteSingles.

Wrapping everything up, should you lay your heart on the line with EliteSingles?

Is EliteSingles Really An Elite Online Dating Site?

Looking for love isn’t easy. If you’re a busy professional, it takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there and be open to communicating with complete strangers. Add to this long tests and high prices, and it makes it even more important that you start your online dating experience on the right foot.

To this end, we think there are a lot of other solid choices compared to EliteSingles. Their pricing model seems in line with many of the other dating sites we’ve reviewed that customers are calling a “scam,” and their online feedback—while limited—certainly doesn’t seem positive. On top of this, there doesn’t seem to be anything especially unique about EliteSingles that meaningfully differentiates it from the competition.

Our recommendation? First, to help you stay scam-free during the process, be sure to read 6 Red Flags When Dating Online. Then, we’d suggest exploring more mainstream online dating options before signing up for an EliteSingles membership.

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94 Consumer Reviews for Elite Singles

Average Consumer Rating: 1.1
Rating Snapshot:
5 star: 0 4 star: 2 3 star: 0 2 star: 2 1 star:  90
Bottom Line: 4% would recommend it to a friend
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  • 1 out 1 people found this review helpful

    Found my soulmate here...

    • Lowbanks, Ontario, Canada,
    • Oct 17, 2018
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    Like other dating sites, you will have to go through many (or some) crazy people until you find somebody (if ever).

    I was lucky and I am happy.

    Unfortunately, these profile evaluations don't help much. You have to contact and see how it goes.

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 1 out 1 people found this review helpful

    Seems phony

    • Ohio,
    • Oct 13, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    I have been on the site for about 10 days. The communication back from the women on this site is essentially non-existent. The lack of returned messages suggests to me that many of the profiles are faked. I am not expecting all positive responses, but if this site were truly made up of intelligent and assertive women (the only kind I like), then they would have no trouble saying something as simple as: "no, I’m not interested". Instead one gets the feeling that the communication is with a stone wall. Lastly, I would rate it at 0 (zero) if the rating was available.

    In my opinion, the site is illegitimate and to be avoided.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 1 out 1 people found this review helpful

    Poor refund policy

    • Bay Area, CA,
    • Oct 4, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    I signed up for the service at a $200 price tag assuming I was paying for a certain amount of months in advance. My "dating" status changed within a week and I canceled my profile and requested a refund, to find out that they only allow refunds for the first three days. NOWHERE during the sign-up process did I see that policy stated and given, I was signing up for a certain amount of months and I assumed I would get a refund for the remaining months. When/if my dating status changes, I will not use the Elite Singles site, that is for sure.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 2 out 2 people found this review helpful

    Bait & Switch

    • Idaho,
    • Sep 30, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    This dating site interested me because it is supposed to be for college graduates, mature individuals looking for love. It is not that at all. I am very disappointed in purchasing a 3 month premium membership. The matches provided are not college graduates and most come from the site Silversingles.com.

    I never signed up for Silver Singles until I was told my profile appeared on the site. I went to the site to see my profile. To see it, I had to pay for a membership with them as well, just to see my profile. The matches on the Silver Singles site were exactly the same as Elite. How does this happen? The matches are far from being educated or a match for me.

    I think both of these sites are a sham. I am going to seek a refund. If I do not get one, I will file an FTC consumer complaint.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 3 out 3 people found this review helpful

    Garbage. Phony. Rude business. Three days?

    • Washington,
    • Sep 18, 2018
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    I never saw the 3-day policy on refunds. I canceled my order and it was painful. I couldn't fathom dating someone living at the opposite coast of the USA.

    When I dated a woman I thought I loved she turned out to be a wallet chaser. She was full of ultimatums despite her profile. I rejected women who were not as advertised. I rejected more who had certainly only wanted a sugar daddy.

    I feel as though the payment amount and refund policy are there because this is a database set on garbage algorithms and fake information to make you think a lot of care and staff are dedicated to your search. Baloney. No wonder they stall your cancellation and refund expectations. I would rather go to a well-established site with excellent reviews like E-Harmony next time I try. They don't hide behind boilerplate systems.

    One more thing. I am responsible and truthful. I don't appreciate "Elite's" business practices and policies. They deserve a minus 5-star rating. Save your hard earned money.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 7 out 8 people found this review helpful

    Rip off

    • Florida,
    • Aug 22, 2018
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    Bad site, never worked. I asked for a refund and they said no. This is a BS site, people don't chat, etc. Just keep the free apps, at least there's no drama of losing your money than you're time chatting!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 7 out 7 people found this review helpful

    Scam

    • New Jersey,
    • Aug 21, 2018
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    Have you ever had your credit card charged for $130 with an automatic renewal and NOT be able to easily contact the vendor to cancel? Their website is full of "Help" messages and instructions to resolve the issue that you ask, but that's the extent of their site. It gives you "help" with no way of executing the instructions. I have worked with computers and user interfaces and this is the worst. Now I need to devote another few hours to try to break through the barrier and contact them. It is very frustrating!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 6 out 10 people found this review helpful

    Fake scam site, they all are!

    • New York City, NY,
    • Aug 18, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    You can't do ANYTHING unless you pay, and it costs a LOT! I'd say 99% of the "profiles" are fake and are made and used by the corporates employee to send men fake messages to string them along and keep them paying!

    You will never chat with any real women on that website! The one or two real profiles were the hideous looking beasts who think they are worthy of a wealthy, good-looking, highly skilled, and very talented man! Don't ever waste your time with their fake scam site!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 23 out 24 people found this review helpful

    NOT impressed.

    • Colorado,
    • Jul 19, 2018
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    I signed up for this site a couple of weeks ago as an alternative to Match.com, thinking it would be different. I initially received no matches, then was told to "relax my standards" when I emailed the customer service department. If this is supposed to be a site for educated professionals, and I am one of those, why should I relax my standards? I have sent out photo requests, smiles and messages, all with only ONE response, which was short lived. All in all, a huge waste of time and money!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 23 out 24 people found this review helpful

    Not a scam but sure not worth the money

    • Ottawa, Ontario, Canada,
    • Jul 2, 2018
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    I joined Elite about three months ago once I got a deal for $100 CAD for six months. I had heard great things about it. In the last three months, I have sent out numerous emails and smiles. Most of the "matches" they send me are from Quebec and in French. I am not bilingual. I have done Match and eHarmony and POF. They are all the same except that POF is free. Not sure what a great girl in her mid 50's has to do to find a great guy!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 19 out 19 people found this review helpful

    Don’t do it

    • New Jersey,
    • Jun 23, 2018
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    Every day they send possible matches, but there are no pictures. The app is not as updated as the website so you get a notification that someone likes you and you can’t find them, so they tend to get lost. That in itself is why I do not recommend this site.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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