Elite Singles Review: Is It the Right Dating Site for You?

By Lydia Noyes
HighYa Staff
Updated on: Nov 19, 2019

What Is Elite Singles?

Elite Singles is an online dating service that claims to cater to those who are over 30, highly educated, and serious about finding a long-term match.

This service launched in 2013, and it claims to add 173,000 new members each month, 85% of whom qualify as highly educated (more education than the average American).

Finding the time to go on endless first dates is difficult when you are a busy professional, so Elite Singles promises to do the hard work for you.

The site will give you a daily list of its suggested best matches so that you can quickly connect with people who meet your requirements without endlessly sorting through profiles.

Will Elite Singles help you find your forever partner, or will you have a better experience with Match.com or eHarmony? We’ll explore those questions and more here.

  • Detailed signup questionnaire lets you specify aspects of your personality and preferred partner
  • Limited daily matches mean you won’t get overwhelmed with options
  • High subscription cost means many users are serious about finding love
  • Smaller membership base than similar dating websites (eHarmony and Match)
  • Higher subscription cost than similar dating sites
  • No more “elite” members than similar dating sites
  • Limited daily matches mean you might not hit it off with someone right away
  • You can only search the full membership base through the app
  • Low average rating from customer reviews

How Does Elite Singles Work?

Elite Singles claims to stand out from other online dating services with its comprehensive personality profile quiz and matching algorithm. When you first sign up for an account, you will need to fill out a 200+ question assessment about your interests, personality, deal-breakers, and priorities for a partner.

These questions are based on the philosophy of the Five Factor Model, which assesses your ranking in five personality traits: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.

Beyond this model, you are also asked questions about your partner preferences, including age range, religion, educational level, location, and goals for children.

Elite Singles then uses an algorithm to compare your assessment results with other members. The site looks both at your personality and lifestyle compatibility to match you with people it believes you could work with long-term.

You can expect between three and seven personalized matches each day. Each one will display a “compatibility percentage” based on your personalities, long-term goals, and shared interests and hobbies.

Beyond your matches, Elite Singles will display up to 20 “Have You Met?” options each day. These are people who don’t necessarily fit all your preferred parameters but still may be worth considering.

Note that you can’t search the desktop site for all members; only your recommended compatible matches are available for viewing and communication. According to the company, this is part of their focus on quality matches over quantity.

You can read your match’s full profile, send them “smiles” (a subtle way to express interest without starting a conversation), or message them directly. Note that all photos and message responses are blurred until you sign up for premium membership.

To summarize, Elite Singles streamlines dating for busy professionals in several key ways:

  • Inactive profiles are deleted off the site
  • You can adjust your match preference parameters at any time
  • Compatibility Score percentages let you assess matches at a glance
  • You can sort matches by education level, core beliefs, children preferences, and more
  • Fewer daily matches mean you can give each one your full attention and then move on with your day

Are All Elite Singles Members Highly Educated and Serious About Love?

Elite Singles claims to offer an exclusive dating platform for established professionals with an above-average education that don’t want to date around. However, our research didn’t reveal any ways that Elite Singles enforces these parameters.

Though the company claims that the site is for “professional, educated, and committed users aged 30 to 50”, there are no restrictions as to who can make a profile. We found matches on the site as young as 22, and many had an Associate’s degree or less. Several matches also included little to no information in their profiles, and many didn’t include photos.

But while seemingly anyone can make an account on Elite Singles, you can adjust your preferences to only see matches that fit your preferences. Just keep in mind that doing so may significantly reduce how many matches you get.

This brings up another question—can you get scammed on Elite Singles? According to customer reviewers (which we’ll touch on later), many users matched with accounts that were either long inactive or seemingly fake.

Some of these reviewers questioned whether the site was creating profiles to bulk up their numbers, or if users were creating fake accounts to scam their matches, though they didn’t share their reasons why they thought this.

Elite Singles states that it will never create fake profiles for catfishing or any other purpose and that it verifies individual profiles with fraud detection technology to guarantee everyone on the site is serious about finding love.

Note: We didn’t encounter any verification requirements or approval process while setting up an account.

What Does Elite Singles Cost?

While it’s free to sign up for Elite Singles, you will need to pay for a premium account for full functionality. Compared to the free version, premium lets you see all member photos, communicate with all matches, know who has visited your profile, and more.

Below is the pricing information for three premium plans offered at publication.

Premium Light Premium Comfort Premium Classic
Length One-month membership Three-month membership Six-month membership
Price per Month $77.95 $37.95 ($113.85 total) $21.95 ($131.70 total)

Premium Classic members will be billed at a higher rate after the initial billing cycle, totaling $167.70 every six months after that.

For each plan, your membership will be automatically renewed at the end of the subscription period. You can cancel this automatic renewal by using the online cancellation form or contacting Customer Care through the app’s help page at least 24 hours before the end of the billing period. If you want to request a refund, you can do so through the same methods.

Elite Singles App vs. the Desktop Version

It’s possible to use Elite Singles through the desktop version of the website or the mobile app.

Many users seem upset with the app’s interface, writing that it is glitchy and shuts down unexpectedly. Some noted that the app didn’t upgrade their membership to premium when it should have and that it often displayed incorrect age and location details for both users and their matches.

The overall consensus we saw from people seemed to be that Elite Single’s desktop version was easier to use and offered more features than the mobile app. Most stated that they preferred using the website over the app.

However, there’s one app feature that stands out from the desktop version. This feature is called “What If…” and it lets you perform an open search on all Elite Singles members.

You can access it through a magnifying glass with a heart in the right-hand corner of the screen, and filter any results by distance, age, profile photos, or time of the last log-in. If you have a paid subscription, you can message anyone you find directly.

Will Elite Singles Help You Find Love Long-Term?

Dating services often have a reputation for helping facilitate quick hookups, rather than finding you a long-term partner. Does Elite Singles beat the trend for those sick of playing games and ready to find real love?

To start, we looked closer at the value of using the Five Factor Model to judge romantic compatibility.

“Of the major personality tests, the Five Factor Model is considered one of the reliable metrics,” says Dr. Matt Johnson, a professor of psychology at Hult International Business School in San Francisco. “It is a relatively stable metric. That is, if you take it multiple times, you’ll get roughly the same results”.

Dr. Johnson continued that the Model has explanatory powers for predicting success in social and romantic relationships. He shared that high scores in agreeableness and extroversion are indicative of suitable candidates for long-term romantic relationships, while scoring high on neuroticism is associated with fewer successful long-term relationships.

However, this framework may not be ideal for pairing you with the right partner. “There is also likely a role for certain personality profiles to be more compatible with one another than others,” he shared, “but so far as I’m aware, there is relatively less research in this domain.”

We also spoke with Katherine Hertlein, a professor with the Couple and Family Therapy program at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, to learn more about the validity of online dating in general. Professor Hertlein has worked as a therapist for 19 years, and her research focus is on the connection between technology and relationships.

“Online dating is great, but it comes with opportunities where you need to be careful,” she told us. “You need to understand the risks and weaknesses before you get started.”

To start, Professor Hertlein explained that online dating breaks down some of the typical barriers that exist when people meet for the first time. “Individuals on dating platforms think they have lots of control over the situation,” she shared, “but that’s not true.”

This is because learning about people through technology makes it hard to assess the accuracy of the information they share. You can’t immediately tell whether someone is lying about their age, height, or other physical characteristics. Even facts like a potential partner’s job, personality, and interests can be more easily faked online than on an in-person date.

Likewise, building a relationship online often leads to faster rates of self-disclosure than what would happen on dates in the real world. “People tend to share intimate details about themselves more quickly online,” says Professor Hertlein, “and this speeds up your emotions and creates a false sense of intimacy. It might trick you into ignoring red flags.”

One way you can combat this, she shared, is to let things develop as a slow progression. Make sure you transition from texting to a phone call before then scheduling a date in a public setting, rather than jumping from online messaging to meeting up at each other’s homes. Following this progression puts a structure in the relationship that slows down how fast intimacy develops so that you don’t become blinded by emotion.

Likewise, it’s important to vet the information you find on dating profiles to verify its accuracy. A quick Google search can often tell you if a prospect is being honest about their career, interests, and other pertinent information.

So long as you take some precautions, Professor Hertlein believes sites like Elite Singles make a lot of sense for finding a longterm partner. “People who gravitate to these sites, as opposed to, say, Tinder, tend to want a long-term relationship in the first place,” she shared.

Analysis of Elite Singles Customer Reviews

More than 130 Elite Singles members have weighed in on their experience on HighYa, and their feedback isn’t favorable. The site averages just 1.2 stars, and only 6% of users suggest they would recommend it to a friend.

Here are some of the key takeaways from those reviews:

  • “Elite” Singles Isn’t Elite: Many reviewers seemed to take issue with the company’s “Elite” status. For instance, one user wrote that three of her matches were taken off the site because they were found to have criminal records. Others wrote that most of their matches had far lower education levels than they had specified as their preferences.

  • High Prices for Low-Quality Matches: Several reviewers expressed frustration at the membership fees. They were dissatisfied with the quality and quantity of their matches and thought they would get more personalized treatment for the price, considering it was higher than the competition.

  • Auto-Renewal Might Be Unexpected: Others shared dissatisfaction with Elite Singles’ renewal policy, saying they never received any indication of renewal in advance of the date. Some users had been off the site for months when their subscription renewed.

  • Concerns with Fake Accounts: Many reviews wrote that they were matched with lots of profiles that included fewer than ten words total that turned out to be fake accounts. And in a few cases, users reported that their profiles were shared on other dating sites without their permission.

  • Love is Possible with Elite Singles: The two five-star reviews on HighYa share that the app successfully helped the reviewers find promising matches, both of which resulted in plans for marriage. One of these reviewers noted that Elite Singles created a better space for starting conversations than on other dating apps, which made it easier to build relationships quickly.

Though these reviews are just a small snapshot of Elite Singles users, they tell us some valuable information. Elite Single’s claims of convenient, exclusive dating fall short of reality for many users who find the service expensive and cumbersome to use. Just a small percentage of users seem satisfied or find long-term success with this platform.

Elite Singles vs. eHarmony and Match.com

There are a few big players in the world of online dating, including eHarmony and Match.com. How do they compare to Elite Singles? The following chart shares some of the crucial differences between them.

Elite Singles eHarmony Match.com
Price Per Month $21.95-$77.95 $12.95-$59.95 $18.99 to $37.99
Matching Process Assigns matches based on your Five Factor Model results and your personal partner preferences (takes 45 minutes) Assigns matches based on results from 29 Dimensions of Compatibility Matching Questionnaire (should take 20-45 minutes) Short quiz that asks for demographic information and your basic partner requirements
Free Search Available? Only through the app Yes, and the site automatically matches you with approximately 2,000 matches Yes
Number of Daily Matches 3-7 Varies based on your perimeters Unlimited
Ability to Search by Income/ Education Level? Yes Yes, with premium Yes
Key Features Claims to tailor to 30+, highly educated members. Largest demographic is ages 25-35. Leading dating site for those 50+. First online dating site (launched in 1995). No limit to daily matches.
Overall App Rating Android: 2.4 stars (8,000 reviews). iOS: 3.1 stars (13,000 reviews) Android: 2.6 stars (35,000 reviews). iOS: 3.6 stars (12,000 reviews) Android: 3 stars (85,000 reviews). iOS: 3.8 stars (7,000 reviews)
Number of Members About 2 million 10 million active users 9 million active users

Compared to Elite Singles, both eHarmony and Match.com have close to five times the members. This gives you a much bigger dating pool than Elite Singles, which could be helpful or frustrating, depending on how well matched these members are to you.

Both Elite Singles and eHarmony include detailed quizzes as part of the signup process. We found that Elite Single’s assessment tends to focus on concrete goals and desires for a potential partner, while eHarmony took more of a behavioral assessment approach to deciphering your personality.

Match.com’s quiz was brief and perfunctory, and it didn’t ask for much information about what you’re seeking in a partner. However, this platform offers the most detailed search filters so you can narrow down potential matches yourself.

It’s also less expensive to sign up for eHarmony for the short term, as a one-month plan costs $59.99, compared to $77.95 for Elite Singles. Match.com membership starts with a three-month commitment for $37.99 a month, for $113.97 total.

Is Elite Singles the best online dating service available for busy professionals? We don’t think so, as it doesn’t offer much to differentiate itself from others. All three platforms make it easy to filter your matches by education and income level. Elite Singles claims this feature sets it apart from the competition, but that doesn’t seem to match reality.

We even found more local members with PhDs on Match.com than when searching on the other two sites.

To summarize, Elite Singles has a smaller membership base and costs more per month than eHarmony and Match.com. The site’s apps have lower reviews than the other two platforms apps do, and we don’t think Elite Single’s search features make it any easier to find highly-educated singles than the other two dating sites.

If you are choosing between the three, we don’t think Elite Singles has any key advantages over eHarmony or Match.com.

The Bottom Line: Is Elite Singles Worth It?

Elite Singles promises to help you find love connections with highly educated singles near you. But for many users who left reviews on HighYa, the site falls far short of these promises.

One of the most common complaints from customer reviews was that Elite Singles lacks any screening process for reputable profiles. Many users reported that they felt like they only matched with spammers or with people who fit some, but not most, of their requirements.

In fact, we think that both eHarmony and Match.com have a significant advantage over Elite Singles because they make it easier to perform open searches on every member. With Elite Singles, you’re limited to just your daily matches and recommendations, unless you use the app.

However, more choice isn’t always better. If you prefer to look through a shortlist of dating prospects rather than combing through dozens, even hundreds, of profiles, Elite Singles offers the advantage of less decision paralysis.

If you want to make Elite Singles work best for you, then we suggest you ensure your match preferences are accurate without being too limiting. For instance, choose a large geographic distance or specify that physical characteristics like height and age are not important to you.

Being too strict with these preferences can significantly limit your daily matches.

Still struggling to choose the best dating app for you? Professor Hertlein suggests sourcing ideas from your peer group. You likely all have similar interests and value systems, so if a specific platform worked for any of your friends, there’s a decent chance you can find people on it that you are compatible with as well.

Read 141 Elite Singles Customer Reviews and Complaints

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Average Customer Rating: 1.2
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5 star: 2 4 star: 3 3 star: 0 2 star: 6 1 star:  130
Bottom Line: 6% would recommend it to a friend
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  • Not a dating site

    • By Dave S.,
    • Springville, NY,
    • Mar 10, 2020
    • Verified Reviewer

    The company never put in any effort for the members to have pictures, or to be a paid member, so I can't start a conversation. So you never know what the person looks like. Plus, they can't contact you, they're not a paid member. I don't know if they're a paid member because the company keeps their profile on their site to make it look like they got more members on the site. This is not a dating site, the company is making money off the people that are paying for a membership that receives no service. They don't have to be a paid member so they can't contact you. They only can send you a smiley face. They never have any available paid members in my area. No one puts any effort into making any contact. It's just a waste of time and money. Like any other dating site!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • No good

    • By Deb M.,
    • Philadelphia, PA,
    • Mar 4, 2020
    • Verified Reviewer

    Many many people with no photos and they do not respond when you ask for photos. The closest distance you can enter for your match is 50 miles and the matches are often way outside of that. The last person who messaged me was 237 miles away! The only match I was interested in is 100 miles away. Would not recommend. Save your money.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • Not worth the money

    • By Melinda G.,
    • Florida,
    • Dec 4, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    There are not many choices and 80% of the choices do not have pictures. I've been on for about 2 weeks and there are 43 profiles and most have no pictures...Absolutely NOT worth the money.

    Very disappointing.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • Terrible

    • By Smash T.,
    • Colorado,
    • Oct 31, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I have received three security notifications that the men I was talking to have been removed because they have broken the law. They do not respect the parameters you put in like race or distance or education level because I continually receive only people outside of my parameters. There is nothing Elite about any of their people. Most have less than a college degree and are in Blue Collar jobs. So their whole advertisement about getting people that are highly educated and high paying jobs and all of that that they advertise is a complete lie. I have been trying to get out of my membership since the moment I got on and I just get the runaround from their customer service.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • The most horrible

    • By Killian H.,
    • Los Angeles, CA,
    • Aug 27, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    The most horrible dating site, there’s no way to match with anyone if you are looking for an upscale reasonable partner! The search engines and the match test has no point. There is just a waste of time to fill out everything from that form. Stay away! It’s just a rip-off!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • OMG, even Tinder is better!

    • By Mark H.,
    • Bulverde, TX,
    • Aug 13, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I joined Elite Singles and it was the worst dating app. The women were not "elite" at all. In fact, they were women who couldn't get dates on Tinder or Bumble. If you're looking for Harvard graduates, this is the last place to look. Very few of the women even attended Division 1 schools. There are no standards to qualify people other than the $100+ you pay. You're better off going to a bar in any major city in the USA and you can do better. From here on out, I'm doing it the old-fashioned way!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • Scammers with flair

    • By Susan P.,
    • California,
    • Aug 7, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    Read the reviews, but question who is really writing them. Here is what really happens after you pay your mandatory 3 months for Elite Singles. The first 3 days you are bombarded with matches. They make sure you are thrilled because there is a 3-day right of recision here.

    After that, matches start to deteriorate. Matches that live too far, too old or simply conflict with your requirement data start filtering in. Next, you end up with pages of no pic matches that have a profile of ten words or less, no details and no interest in writing back.

    I decided to find out why. It seems the people who were getting my picture and profile were from other sites. Many did not pay and many were just fishing. I paid for Elite Singles because I wanted a smaller group of people who would pay for services. It's a scam.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • Not for me

    • By Christine Z.,
    • Washington,
    • Jul 29, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    There is nothing "elite" about Elite Singles. Most of these people have no higher degree. An associates degree is not "highly educated." The caliber of the men in my age range is questionable...they are largely blue-collar. I was expecting educated, polished people like myself with master's degrees and doctorate degrees. The ad on TV is false advertising. I have nothing in common with these men.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • Terrible experience

    • By Lo R.,
    • Miami, FL,
    • Jul 1, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    This website has very few subscribers and therefore very few choices.

    Most of the matches I was offered were 50 to 200 miles away. They renewed the membership without my consent. Apparently, I signed for it and I had 3 days to cancel. As the notice went to my junk email it took me a week to send the cancellation email and they refused to refund me. In the end, it cost me over $300 for nothing.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • You will regret if you sign up for this

    • By Amigurumi P.,
    • California,
    • Jun 3, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    They don’t have enough members that they send you matches that don’t even meet your requirements. Lots of scammers. I had to report scammers in this dating site twice within a week. Customer service avoided to answer my questions and concerns, acted like nothing happened. It’s a complete waste of time and money.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

  • Dishonest and pricey

    • By Phyllis S.,
    • Charlotte, NC,
    • May 14, 2019
    • Verified Reviewer

    I don't doubt that some will have much success on this site, and I am very happy for them. However, the site is very expensive, dishonest, and it lacks integrity. It is dishonest about the number of active members, the total number of members, and the total number of active members are two different things, however, you find after joining that many, many of the members are not active members, full disclosure is important and it shows integrity. The site shares your photo on another site and there is no option to opt out. Is this practice clearly stated when you sign up? If so, I didn't see it. The purpose is GREED, if you see someone you are interested in you have to pay to contact them. More money for the parent company. No free or drastically reduced price trial membership period that gives you full access to all the site features, you pay a full membership fee and surprise, surprise, suddenly the members are not professionals.

    Bottom line, there is no incentive to pay the higher price for this site, the quality and quantity of the matches are no better than the less expensive sites, they are dishonest and lack integrity just like all of the other sites and because of the pretentious of this site, you don't have as much fun, the freedom to contact members on your own whenever you like. Stick with POF, it's just as good as any of the sites and it is free.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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