About Elite Singles

Billing themselves as “a professional dating site for busy American singles,” EliteSingles claims to help you find a like-minded match, regardless of race, religion, age, or sexual preference.

Compared to other dating sites, EliteSingles does this by requiring members to complete a detailed personality test (don’t worry, we’ll cover this in greater detail shortly). Then, they’ll use these results to send you 3-7 potential matches per day, which allows you to interact with others while still living your busy life. Or, as EliteSingles calls it, “streamlining the process.”

In fact, EliteSingles claims that more than 2/3 of their members hold either a bachelor’s, master’s, or doctorate degree, which means that they’re probably just as busy as you are. In addition, EliteSingles also claims that they gain 18,000 new members per week, with an average gender split of 43% male and 57% female, mostly between the ages of 30 and 55.

As a busy professional, there’s no doubt that finding true love can seem like a daunting task. I mean, where would you find the time in your hectic schedule?

But can EliteSingles help you find the right match? Do their prices provide a solid value? Are there any other considerations you should keep in mind? We’ll cover all the basics here, so you can decide if EliteSingles is worth your time and money.

Since EliteSingles’ personality test is arguably their main selling point, we’ll begin there.

EliteSingles’ Personality Test & Matching System

The 200 questions found in EliteSingles’ personality test are based on the Five Factor Model developed by Robert McCrae and Paul Costa, which measures “openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.”

Because of the test’s length, you can save your progress, log out, and return to finish at a later time, although it will need to be completed within 15 weeks of starting.

Once you’ve completed your test though, you won’t be able to go back and repeat it or change your answers at a later date. Which is why EliteSingles recommends answering as honestly as you can the first time around.

As long as you’re an EliteSingles member, you’ll be able to view the test results under your personal profile. For more information, be sure to read through EliteSingles’ Personality Test page.

An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.​An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.

From there, Elite Singles will use these results, along with their “scientific matching algorithm,” to “help introduce members with similar traits to one another, [in an effort] to give people the best chance at having a happy, long-term relationship.”

This is accomplished by sending you 3-7 matches per day, which uses 3 main criteria: your personality results from above, your relationship preferences (e.g. kids, distance, preferred age, etc.), and your location. Another factor that can impact the number of matches EliteSingles sends to you is how often you’re active on the site. In other words, the more you log on, the more matches you’ll receive.

In fact, if you’re not active enough (the company doesn’t provide any clarification about this point), you might lose your recommendations—and stop being recommended to others—altogether.

Note: Because EliteSingles’ algorithm is proprietary, we’re not told exactly how their system decides which matches to send you. However, it doesn’t appear to be based solely on how closely someone matches your personality traits, since they claim: “We’re convinced that the best relationships are between people who are not 100% identical, but enjoy a mixture of common denominators and complementary characteristics.”

But once you find someone you’re interested in, what can you do from there? We’ll get to that in a second, but let’s wrap up this section with some concerns surrounding the Five Factor Model.

Is the Five Factor Model Legit?

Is the Five Factor Model a legitimate psychological theory? Yes. But like any other theory, it’s come under a great deal of scrutiny since first being released in 1992.

Unless you’re a psychologist, most of the critiques related to the Five Factor Model will probably bore you to tears. In layman’s terms though, there are 3 main concerns:

  1. Many have argued that the Five Factor Model can’t help explain or predict anything—included potential love interests. In other words, it might not be accurate for gauging how well your personality will match with others. Why? Because it doesn’t account for cultural differences.
  2. The model only accounts for 56% of known personality traits, which means that it might leave a lot of “gray area” between you and a potential match.
  3. Finally, there isn’t a theory that the model is grounded on (which goes back to the first critique above). Instead, it’s basically just a set of data points that are clustered together in a “less than optimal” manner.

Reaching Out To Your EliteSingles Matches

In a nutshell, EliteSingles provides 4 different ways to communicate with your matches:

  • Smiles – This is often the first step, which is basically like sending an emoticon to someone, letting them know you’re interested.
  • 5 Questions – Here, you’ll be able to select 5 different questions from a list of 50 and send them to your match. Then, they’ll be able to select their answers from a list, or type a custom answer. According to EliteSingles, this can act as a sort of ice breaker to help get the conversation started.
  • Likes & Dislikes – You can send a list of the characteristics and habits you’re looking for, and they can do the same. This can help you compare each other’s answers a figure out whether or not you want to continue communicating.
  • Send a message – This is a “personalized text message” that can be sent at any time.

How much will all of these features cost you?

EliteSingles’ Membership Pricing

Signing up for an EliteSingles’ membership and taking their personality test can be done free of charge. However, if you want to begin receiving daily matches, you’ll have to purchase a paid membership. This will cost you:

  • 1 Month: $59.95
  • 3 Months: $34.95 per month (one charge of $104.85)
  • 6 Months: $24.95 per month (one charge of $149.70)
  • 12 Months: $17.95 per month (one charge of $215.40)

EliteSingles also offers a Premium Plus program, which will give you “the added benefit of receiving up to 20 additional matches per day via the “Have you met” feature.” This will cost:

  • 1 Month: $69.95
  • 3 Months: $39.95 per month (one charge of $119.85)
  • 6 Months: $29.95 per month (one charge of $179.70)
  • 12 Months: $19.95 per month (one charge of $239.40)

Regardless of which option you choose, remember that your EliteSingles membership will automatically renew at the end of the term.

Pro tip: We’ve reviewed several other popular dating sites here at HighYa (more about this next), and we often find that in addition to your membership price, you’ll have to pay to communicate with other users. Some charge for this directly, while others use a credit-based system (e.g. sending a smile will cost you 1 credit, sending a message 10 credits, etc.), which can quickly add up.

With limited pricing information available, this might not be the case with EliteSingles, although it’s definitely something worth keeping in mind.

To help answer some of your questions, EliteSingles does feature a fairly extensive FAQ section, although we didn’t uncover anything additional regarding pricing. And if you have any direct questions, customer support can be reached at support@elitesingles.com.

EliteSingles’ Competition & Customer Feedback

The truth is that it’s difficult to compete with giants like OKCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony, so most recent additions to the online dating industry focus on specific niches. This includes FarmersOnly (those looking to meet rural individuals), TripTogether (those who like to travel), ChristianMingle.com (Christians looking for other Christians), OurTime (those over 50), and more.

So what’s EliteSingles’ unique angle? Although the Five Factor Model they use might be unique, personality tests in general certainly are not. In fact, all of the top 3 sites noted above use in-depth personality tests to help match you with other singles, so it doesn’t appear there’s any advantage there.

Is it the fact that most of EliteSingles’ users are high-level professionals with college degrees? Here’s where things get interesting. Why? Because it doesn’t appear that you have to meet minimum educational or career requirements in order to join. So, while EliteSingles claims that 2/3 of their users have college-level or advanced degrees, this doesn’t appear to be a deciding factor.

Despite the site’s somewhat fuzzy advantage over the competition, are love-seekers happy with their experience?

One DatingSitesReviews, a couple dozen EliteSingles customers had nothing positive to say about the company. Common complaints cited:

  • Matching: The same 8 matches sent as soon as you join (several users from different parts of the world all said the same thing).
  • Proximity: You can’t view how close your matches are. In many instances, matches were several states away, even though they indicated that they were only interested in matches within a 50 mile radius.
  • High Price: In addition to your monthly membership, you have to pay even more for all communication.
  • Poor Customer Service: This included boilerplate responses to detailed questions, as well as difficulty cancelling memberships.

Outside of this, we only found affiliate sites and biased reviews relating to EliteSingles.

Wrapping everything up, should you lay your heart on the line with EliteSingles?

Is EliteSingles Really An Elite Online Dating Site?

Looking for love isn’t easy. If you’re a busy professional, it takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there and be open to communicating with complete strangers. Add to this long tests and high prices, and it makes it even more important that you start your online dating experience on the right foot.

To this end, we think there are a lot of other solid choices compared to EliteSingles. Their pricing model seems in line with many of the other dating sites we’ve reviewed that customers are calling a “scam,” and their online feedback—while limited—certainly doesn’t seem positive. On top of this, there doesn’t seem to be anything especially unique about EliteSingles that meaningfully differentiates it from the competition.

Our recommendation? First, to help you stay scam-free during the process, be sure to read 6 Red Flags When Dating Online. Then, we’d suggest exploring more mainstream online dating options before signing up for an EliteSingles membership.

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56 Consumer Reviews for Elite Singles

Average Consumer Rating: 1.0
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5 star: 0 4 star: 0 3 star: 0 2 star: 1 1 star:  55
Bottom Line: 4% would recommend it to a friend
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  • 2 out 2 people found this review helpful

    Don't waste your money or your time

    I joined for six months at a cost of $209.70. There is no one on the other end when you try to contact a customer service rep by email or phone. It's a third or fourth party operation. Eventually, I received a reply that in no way answered my question. They actually asked me to rate their customer service. The nerve!

    No receipt or email confirmation is sent when you subscribe. After three attempts, I got an email with the dollar amount, start date, and length of time of membership. No names, not mine, not Elite Singles. No addresses. No customer service contact info. No phone number. No email address. The top of the page I printed had its URL address mostly covered by icons.

    No states are mentioned in the profiles, only cities, so members have no idea how far away the other members live. Very often, the website just did not work so I was trying to scroll to search the supposed hundreds of eligible men, but most often only the first ten were accessible.

    I believe Elite Singles is connected to Match.com in some way, or pretends to be.

    Needless to say, the entire experience was a disappointment and a rip-off.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 3 out 3 people found this review helpful

    Elite Singles are pretty much idiots

    • New Zealand,
    • Dec 11, 2017
    • Verified Reviewer

    Yes, unfortunately, Elite Singles are idiots. I don't care about paying $209 for six months BUT the matches are rubbish and utter crap. Sorry to tell you. The worst is, they won't allow you to have your say about yourself. For example, I said I like to spend most of my time mucking around and they did NOT approve that and rejected the comment. And please, some common sense, I am who I say I am.

    And wait, there's more. They won't allow you to set criteria for weight. Well, I am fit and want a woman that is similar. My matches were a lot of overweight fat girls. What the heck!? Elite Singles are idiots, just in it for the money and preserving a fake reputation. YEAH, you could meet someone and I agree there are reputable people on there, but only because there is a price to pay and it's not free. That is something positive about Elite; Elite's pricing attracts people that are serious about meeting someone, which shows people are genuine.

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 2 out 3 people found this review helpful

    It is a fake!

    • Manhattan, KS,
    • Dec 5, 2017
    • Verified Reviewer

    Profile images are often scanned from magazines and other printed materials or copied from professional businesses (like lawyer and doctor photos), and often ads are forgotten on the margins. You will not get messages, and yours will end nowhere.

    When I tried to verify a real person behind a profile I got an immediate response that this site is better than any other and it felt like an automated response rather than written by someone real. Profiles seem to have the same tone and scripture, just changed about 20% from case by case. I suspect they go after your high subscription fee and use your profile later when you leave the site frustrated.

    They make money by catching new unsuspecting fish. It is a perfect scam, virtually non-provable.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 10 out 10 people found this review helpful

    Waste of money!

    • Butter, PA,
    • Nov 28, 2017
    • Verified Reviewer

    Absolutely a scam and a waste of money. My “matches” did not fit my preferences at all and were all in different areas of the US. I “liked” a few profiles and I got no responses. As far as my profile, I relatively got no interest. SAVE your valuable TIME, ENERGY, and MONEY. Elite Singles, like other online “dating sites," preys on decent people’s desires and emotions and has empty promises.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 9 out 10 people found this review helpful

    Worst dating site ever

    • Byron Center, MI,
    • Nov 18, 2017
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    Cons: super expensive, match-making logic is pathetic, extremely limited option, and after a few days, the site will display previously contacted people as new.

    Overall, it's a scam. The site is out several times in a day.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 6 out 7 people found this review helpful

    It's a trick

    • Douglas, WY,
    • Nov 15, 2017
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    They let you set up a site but then you can't look at anyone's stuff or see how many people on there are in your area nothing until you pay their membership fee of $34.00 a month (and six months worth all at once), just to find out there is no one on there that is even close to you.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 6 out 6 people found this review helpful

    Big joke

    I got rooked for a 6-month subscription for $209.99. I have not had one match, one visitor, nor have I been shown more than five people from Michigan. I can browse perhaps 30 people all different ages, many with no college education and ABSOLUTELY no attempt to provide me with one thing for my money. When I complained to them, I was told that perhaps my standards were too high. What a joke!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 7 out 7 people found this review helpful

    Deceiving company

    • Ottawa, Ontario, Canada,
    • Nov 9, 2017
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    Elite Singles deceives people; they automatically renew after six mounts the membership with no reminders. It's a scam. I don't recommend.

    I was waiting for my membership to end as it's boring and not comfortable, but I am stuck for another six months.

    Avoid, avoid.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 8 out 8 people found this review helpful

    Horrible

    • Edmonton, Alberta, Canada,
    • Nov 4, 2017
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    After spending an enormous amount of time answering questions, and giving them a lot of money, I get sent nothing but a few "matches" with no pictures. I asked for my money back, and they refused. Don't waste your money!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 8 out 8 people found this review helpful

    It is a scam!

    • Detroit, MI,
    • Oct 31, 2017
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    I read all of the reviews and took a chance on the science professed on the site. The first week I was matched with a guy and singles from across the country. I asked customer service why Elite Singles would send matches outside of my 50-mile preference. Their response was that my preferences were too limiting and they don't have enough members that meet my expectations.

    So I "loosened up" my preferences and 90% of the matches are high school education, incomplete profiles, and have no images. After three months, I am starting to believe most of the "matches" are fake including the one named "Bridgitte" complete with a perfect stock image of Ms. Nielsen from the 1980s. Buyer beware!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 7 out 7 people found this review helpful

    Site is anti-social

    This non-US based company, EliteSingles.com, is worthless. First, try to contact them. Simply you cannot call them after you join unless you want to call Germany. Also, they have an auto-renew policy which other sites have, but again, they are in Germany. Oh yes, you can fax them, how 21st century (bahaha), or write an address in Delaware, but call and speak to a person? NO.

    That's right, this site is promoting the ability to "scientifically" match you with the love of your life, daily, but doesn't want to talk, not directly and not to you after you join. Sure, call them when you're registering? No problem. But later they are phantoms without integrity.

    I was matched with someone to whom they had assigned a matching value of 40, on the 100-point scale. When asked why, I was told it's their scientific method, and I was given a prescribed answer, which also made no sense. So twice they didn't care. I have had to send at least a dozen emails and contact forms requesting to know if my profile was deleted and if my auto-renew canceled. I am still awaiting an answer on the latter.

    DON'T waste your time filling out their nonsensical forms and DON'T waste your money on the likes of these unprofessionals who understand nothing of customer service. Can you say "rip off?"

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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