About Elite Singles

Billing themselves as “a professional dating site for busy American singles,” EliteSingles claims to help you find a like-minded match, regardless of race, religion, age, or sexual preference.

Compared to other dating sites, EliteSingles does this by requiring members to complete a detailed personality test (don’t worry, we’ll cover this in greater detail shortly). Then, they’ll use these results to send you 3-7 potential matches per day, which allows you to interact with others while still living your busy life. Or, as EliteSingles calls it, “streamlining the process.”

In fact, EliteSingles claims that more than 2/3 of their members hold either a bachelor’s, master’s, or doctorate degree, which means that they’re probably just as busy as you are. In addition, EliteSingles also claims that they gain 18,000 new members per week, with an average gender split of 43% male and 57% female, mostly between the ages of 30 and 55.

As a busy professional, there’s no doubt that finding true love can seem like a daunting task. I mean, where would you find the time in your hectic schedule?

But can EliteSingles help you find the right match? Do their prices provide a solid value? Are there any other considerations you should keep in mind? We’ll cover all the basics here, so you can decide if EliteSingles is worth your time and money.

Since EliteSingles’ personality test is arguably their main selling point, we’ll begin there.

EliteSingles’ Personality Test & Matching System

The 200 questions found in EliteSingles’ personality test are based on the Five Factor Model developed by Robert McCrae and Paul Costa, which measures “openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.”

Because of the test’s length, you can save your progress, log out, and return to finish at a later time, although it will need to be completed within 15 weeks of starting.

Once you’ve completed your test though, you won’t be able to go back and repeat it or change your answers at a later date. Which is why EliteSingles recommends answering as honestly as you can the first time around.

As long as you’re an EliteSingles member, you’ll be able to view the test results under your personal profile. For more information, be sure to read through EliteSingles’ Personality Test page.

An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.​An example of what your test results will look like after completing EliteSingles’ personality test.

From there, Elite Singles will use these results, along with their “scientific matching algorithm,” to “help introduce members with similar traits to one another, [in an effort] to give people the best chance at having a happy, long-term relationship.”

This is accomplished by sending you 3-7 matches per day, which uses 3 main criteria: your personality results from above, your relationship preferences (e.g. kids, distance, preferred age, etc.), and your location. Another factor that can impact the number of matches EliteSingles sends to you is how often you’re active on the site. In other words, the more you log on, the more matches you’ll receive.

In fact, if you’re not active enough (the company doesn’t provide any clarification about this point), you might lose your recommendations—and stop being recommended to others—altogether.

Note: Because EliteSingles’ algorithm is proprietary, we’re not told exactly how their system decides which matches to send you. However, it doesn’t appear to be based solely on how closely someone matches your personality traits, since they claim: “We’re convinced that the best relationships are between people who are not 100% identical, but enjoy a mixture of common denominators and complementary characteristics.”

But once you find someone you’re interested in, what can you do from there? We’ll get to that in a second, but let’s wrap up this section with some concerns surrounding the Five Factor Model.

Is the Five Factor Model Legit?

Is the Five Factor Model a legitimate psychological theory? Yes. But like any other theory, it’s come under a great deal of scrutiny since first being released in 1992.

Unless you’re a psychologist, most of the critiques related to the Five Factor Model will probably bore you to tears. In layman’s terms though, there are 3 main concerns:

  1. Many have argued that the Five Factor Model can’t help explain or predict anything—included potential love interests. In other words, it might not be accurate for gauging how well your personality will match with others. Why? Because it doesn’t account for cultural differences.
  2. The model only accounts for 56% of known personality traits, which means that it might leave a lot of “gray area” between you and a potential match.
  3. Finally, there isn’t a theory that the model is grounded on (which goes back to the first critique above). Instead, it’s basically just a set of data points that are clustered together in a “less than optimal” manner.

Reaching Out To Your EliteSingles Matches

In a nutshell, EliteSingles provides 4 different ways to communicate with your matches:

  • Smiles – This is often the first step, which is basically like sending an emoticon to someone, letting them know you’re interested.
  • 5 Questions – Here, you’ll be able to select 5 different questions from a list of 50 and send them to your match. Then, they’ll be able to select their answers from a list, or type a custom answer. According to EliteSingles, this can act as a sort of ice breaker to help get the conversation started.
  • Likes & Dislikes – You can send a list of the characteristics and habits you’re looking for, and they can do the same. This can help you compare each other’s answers a figure out whether or not you want to continue communicating.
  • Send a message – This is a “personalized text message” that can be sent at any time.

How much will all of these features cost you?

EliteSingles’ Membership Pricing

Signing up for an EliteSingles’ membership and taking their personality test can be done free of charge. However, if you want to begin receiving daily matches, you’ll have to purchase a paid membership. This will cost you:

  • 1 Month: $59.95
  • 3 Months: $34.95 per month (one charge of $104.85)
  • 6 Months: $24.95 per month (one charge of $149.70)
  • 12 Months: $17.95 per month (one charge of $215.40)

EliteSingles also offers a Premium Plus program, which will give you “the added benefit of receiving up to 20 additional matches per day via the “Have you met” feature.” This will cost:

  • 1 Month: $69.95
  • 3 Months: $39.95 per month (one charge of $119.85)
  • 6 Months: $29.95 per month (one charge of $179.70)
  • 12 Months: $19.95 per month (one charge of $239.40)

Regardless of which option you choose, remember that your EliteSingles membership will automatically renew at the end of the term.

Pro tip: We’ve reviewed several other popular dating sites here at HighYa (more about this next), and we often find that in addition to your membership price, you’ll have to pay to communicate with other users. Some charge for this directly, while others use a credit-based system (e.g. sending a smile will cost you 1 credit, sending a message 10 credits, etc.), which can quickly add up.

With limited pricing information available, this might not be the case with EliteSingles, although it’s definitely something worth keeping in mind.

To help answer some of your questions, EliteSingles does feature a fairly extensive FAQ section, although we didn’t uncover anything additional regarding pricing. And if you have any direct questions, customer support can be reached at support@elitesingles.com.

EliteSingles’ Competition & Customer Feedback

The truth is that it’s difficult to compete with giants like OKCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony, so most recent additions to the online dating industry focus on specific niches. This includes FarmersOnly (those looking to meet rural individuals), TripTogether (those who like to travel), ChristianMingle.com (Christians looking for other Christians), OurTime (those over 50), and more.

So what’s EliteSingles’ unique angle? Although the Five Factor Model they use might be unique, personality tests in general certainly are not. In fact, all of the top 3 sites noted above use in-depth personality tests to help match you with other singles, so it doesn’t appear there’s any advantage there.

Is it the fact that most of EliteSingles’ users are high-level professionals with college degrees? Here’s where things get interesting. Why? Because it doesn’t appear that you have to meet minimum educational or career requirements in order to join. So, while EliteSingles claims that 2/3 of their users have college-level or advanced degrees, this doesn’t appear to be a deciding factor.

Despite the site’s somewhat fuzzy advantage over the competition, are love-seekers happy with their experience?

One DatingSitesReviews, a couple dozen EliteSingles customers had nothing positive to say about the company. Common complaints cited:

  • Matching: The same 8 matches sent as soon as you join (several users from different parts of the world all said the same thing).
  • Proximity: You can’t view how close your matches are. In many instances, matches were several states away, even though they indicated that they were only interested in matches within a 50 mile radius.
  • High Price: In addition to your monthly membership, you have to pay even more for all communication.
  • Poor Customer Service: This included boilerplate responses to detailed questions, as well as difficulty cancelling memberships.

Outside of this, we only found affiliate sites and biased reviews relating to EliteSingles.

Wrapping everything up, should you lay your heart on the line with EliteSingles?

Is EliteSingles Really An Elite Online Dating Site?

Looking for love isn’t easy. If you’re a busy professional, it takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there and be open to communicating with complete strangers. Add to this long tests and high prices, and it makes it even more important that you start your online dating experience on the right foot.

To this end, we think there are a lot of other solid choices compared to EliteSingles. Their pricing model seems in line with many of the other dating sites we’ve reviewed that customers are calling a “scam,” and their online feedback—while limited—certainly doesn’t seem positive. On top of this, there doesn’t seem to be anything especially unique about EliteSingles that meaningfully differentiates it from the competition.

Our recommendation? First, to help you stay scam-free during the process, be sure to read 6 Red Flags When Dating Online. Then, we’d suggest exploring more mainstream online dating options before signing up for an EliteSingles membership.

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64 Consumer Reviews for Elite Singles

Average Consumer Rating: 1.0
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Bottom Line: 3% would recommend it to a friend
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  • 5 out 5 people found this review helpful

    Nope

    It is no better than any other online dating service. Additionally, I met someone for a date that I met there. On the date, we exchanged last names and cell numbers for the first time. So I vetted him like anyone else I date. He reported his age to be 57. I’m 52. Online I discovered he is actually 70. Almost my dad’s age! I called him on it. He didn’t understand the problem. I told him it was the dishonesty more than anything.

    I reported it to EliteSingles. I had unmatched him. They said they needed a screenshot of his profile and a forward of the email from EliteSingles to be able to track him down. I said I couldn’t get to either. But I had his FULL NAME (which is actually pretty unusual), the town he resides in, and his photo that I screenshot from Facebook. They said they couldn’t find him that way! HUH? Good thing he’s not a serial killer! That made NO sense to me. So I suppose he’ll go on duping more women! Ridiculous!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 5 out 5 people found this review helpful

    Rip off!

    • Kentucky,
    • Feb 7, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    They send you profiles of inactive accounts, lots of matches with no photos because the profiles are fake or inactive.

    Do NOT give them your money! They keep directing you around to help topics and have nothing for you to reach customer service for your real complaint, only offer generic computer generated crap that doesn't address your issue. You will get all the matches they promise, with no photos and nonactive accounts, and this is how they meet their promise to you. They then suggest you request a photo to an inactive account, and this is how they justify their fees.

    Do NOT join; it's a scam!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 4 out 4 people found this review helpful

    HORRIBLE. Do not sign up.

    Run to another site. The content and layout are so bad. I wish I had known. I trusted the reviews I read and bought the premium, and now I can't get a refund because I passed the 3-day trial. That is unacceptable. I used it for less than a week to see if I could get better results. I want my money back, and their customer service said no!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 7 out 8 people found this review helpful

    Their site gets hacked like a sieve

    • St. Louis, MO,
    • Jan 26, 2018
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    Although some aspects of the site are ok, my profile was hacked and I was emailed by some scammer. Women also told me that their contact info was hacked by scammers. Maybe credit card info too. I told them and they didn't respond. It is a German company. They email but can't be called. I'd discourage you from using them.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 12 out 12 people found this review helpful

    Bad all around

    • Tampa, FL,
    • Jan 15, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    Not only does it not meet criteria for "elite" singles, they argue with you and ASSURE you their system is sending appropriate matches. Then, the customer service rep pointed out that I had closed 200 matches, so apparently, I am the problem. They also wrote that they sent, "...3-7 compatible matches per day and it does look as though we have fulfilled that obligation." The problem is the inappropriate nature of the matches that they did send. The word "elite" does not include unemployed, high school educated, or blue collar workers. But apparently, according to the customer service rep, I am being too picky and should welcome an over-the-road trucker as "elite." On this site, I had the most number of inappropriate language and suggestions from men of any site I have been on.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 8 out 10 people found this review helpful

    Don't waste your money

    • Southport, Queensland, Australia,
    • Jan 7, 2018
    • Verified Reviewer

    This site is as BAD as they say. The app and website are pathetic, and so are the matches. When you change your criteria it does not work, you can't browse profiles, and their matches are oh so bad, and most of the time the matches live over an hour or two away even though I have my settings for only 50klm distance as that was the lowest option I could choose. I should have just thrown $300 down the toilet.

    I also think its a scam. Out of all the matches they sent, I've received lots of smiles from completely inappropriate matches. I then sent a complaint to the support center and then received a few that were appealing that sent me a smile or message, I sent one back and then never hear from them again.

    Not to sound like a princess, however, I'm a very attractive, fit woman being matched with overweight men ten years older than me. Don't waste your money!

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 7 out 8 people found this review helpful

    The biggest scam

    I set up my profile and didn't pay for membership right away, so when I signed up for a full year, I had my card charged a full lump sum instead of other sites that charge monthly. I never received notification that my subscription was up for renewal (since it took my subscription date at date of set up instead of date of payment), so when I tried to cancel my membership, I couldn't, and my card was charged for another $230+.

    When I set up my profile, you set the filters to fit the type of person that you're looking for, and the system will reset filters to give you a "larger pool" to "choose" from. I live in Texas, and Texas is a large state, but I was being matched up with people that live in a different time zone in Texas (not worth the little time that I have). Most of the matches don't have pictures or completed profiles and the site "encourages" the contacting of these matches.

    Elite Singles passes themselves off as a site that has a higher quality of matches, however, most of the matches that ended up in my pool were working at call centers in customer service and like to hunt/fish, I'm not a snob, however, I'm looking for someone that is in my league.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 7 out 7 people found this review helpful

    Do not sign up for Elite Singles!

    If you are looking to sign up for a dating website, DO NOT choose Elite Singles. Definitely a scam! They have no way to contact corporate, and although it appears that canceling an account is an easy four-step process, the only way I can think of to make sure I am not charged again is to request a new credit card, which is what I’m going to have to do.

    Not only that but the dating pool is low, and the majority of the members write nothing about themselves or don’t even post a picture of themselves. I doubt that most of the people are even actual members.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 20 out 21 people found this review helpful

    Don't waste your money or your time

    I joined for six months at a cost of $209.70. There is no one on the other end when you try to contact a customer service rep by email or phone. It's a third or fourth party operation. Eventually, I received a reply that in no way answered my question. They actually asked me to rate their customer service. The nerve!

    No receipt or email confirmation is sent when you subscribe. After three attempts, I got an email with the dollar amount, start date, and length of time of membership. No names, not mine, not Elite Singles. No addresses. No customer service contact info. No phone number. No email address. The top of the page I printed had its URL address mostly covered by icons.

    No states are mentioned in the profiles, only cities, so members have no idea how far away the other members live. Very often, the website just did not work so I was trying to scroll to search the supposed hundreds of eligible men, but most often only the first ten were accessible.

    I believe Elite Singles is connected to Match.com in some way, or pretends to be.

    Needless to say, the entire experience was a disappointment and a rip-off.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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  • 10 out 14 people found this review helpful

    Elite Singles are pretty much idiots

    • New Zealand,
    • Dec 11, 2017
    • Verified Reviewer

    Yes, unfortunately, Elite Singles are idiots. I don't care about paying $209 for six months BUT the matches are rubbish and utter crap. Sorry to tell you. The worst is, they won't allow you to have your say about yourself. For example, I said I like to spend most of my time mucking around and they did NOT approve that and rejected the comment. And please, some common sense, I am who I say I am.

    And wait, there's more. They won't allow you to set criteria for weight. Well, I am fit and want a woman that is similar. My matches were a lot of overweight fat girls. What the heck!? Elite Singles are idiots, just in it for the money and preserving a fake reputation. YEAH, you could meet someone and I agree there are reputable people on there, but only because there is a price to pay and it's not free. That is something positive about Elite; Elite's pricing attracts people that are serious about meeting someone, which shows people are genuine.

    Bottom Line: Yes, I would recommend this to a friend

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  • 12 out 13 people found this review helpful

    It is a fake!

    • Manhattan, KS,
    • Dec 5, 2017
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    Profile images are often scanned from magazines and other printed materials or copied from professional businesses (like lawyer and doctor photos), and often ads are forgotten on the margins. You will not get messages, and yours will end nowhere.

    When I tried to verify a real person behind a profile I got an immediate response that this site is better than any other and it felt like an automated response rather than written by someone real. Profiles seem to have the same tone and scripture, just changed about 20% from case by case. I suspect they go after your high subscription fee and use your profile later when you leave the site frustrated.

    They make money by catching new unsuspecting fish. It is a perfect scam, virtually non-provable.

    Bottom Line: No, I would not recommend this to a friend

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